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cant help thinking it was my fault

emma08

Active Member
Messages
25
Location
Sunderland, Tyne and Wear
Type of diabetes
Parent
Treatment type
Insulin
Hi my 4 year old son was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes a week ago he was in a very bad way in hospital he was showing symptoms for week before but as I never knew of any of the symptoms for diabetes I just put it down to him starting full time school so when he was rushed in to hospital in a bad way I blamed myself for not picking up on the symptoms "/ the thing I dont get is why is it diabetes is so common in children but yet your doctor/health visitors let people know the symptoms they do for menagitis so why not diabetes?
 
It is NOT your fault. You are not a doctor, you didnt know. And you are being there for him.

Sending hugs. And good wishes to you and your son.
 
Thanks I know it sounds daft I think am just looking for someone to blame my son is taking it better then me hes so young and he dont understand why his friends can have things he cant
 
Its not daft at all. Its very hard. I think you are being brave and sensible and very supportive to your little lad.
 
You've had a roller coaster of a time, I think its quite natural to want to feel angry, people's reaction to significant life changes can follow the 'change curve' - denial, anger, acceptance, integration. I am sure you went through 'I don't believe it' and now you are in the anger phase. Its completely natural. Thing is the next step is acceptance, when you start your new life for you and your son, with diabetes in the mix. Learning to inject, manage his diet, school all those things will be a complete change. In a few months time you and he will be taking it all in your stride, and you will look back on this week and find it hard to believe that you have come so far!

Keep strong and you will find your way!
 
My partner seems to have taking to it straight away but I cant seem to accept it I hope in time that I do cos I really dont want to dwell on it for my sons sake, I havent even thought about him going back to school I think I need to get my head around things myself before I think about him going back to school his diabetes nurse says am doing really good but I think she just saying that to make me feel better
 
you're partner probably hasn't thought through all of the implications and practicality, he's just living in the moment, as men do. You've seen what all this means and that's why its hit you so hard, but you will get there. Just take one day at a time and don't beat yourself up. Listen, learn, research, and give him los of love, that's all he needs!
 
Haha I think ur right men dont think like us women do they thanks for you help it means slot just know theres people out there that understand am sure giving time I will get use to it as its whats best for my son he means the world to me and I wouldnt bare seeing him hurt xx
 
It is most certainly NOT your fault. You are right that there is not enough information about diabetes out there. I am hoping one day we will have some helpful, accurate and proactive information out the about all types of Diabetes. Children can get very poorly quickly and arn't often able to tell us excactly how they feel so I agree that the symptoms and effects of diabetes on children needs to be made more aware.

Ther are lots of helpful people on here who will give you practical and emotional support.

Best wishes,

Lucy xxx
 
Please don't blame yourself Emma whatever you do, there are parents of type 1 children on the forum who will hopefully give you the help and support that you need at this present time.

Best wishes!
 
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