See your GP. It sounds the same as my problem - stress incontinence, or urge incontinence, or both. If so, there is an easy fix, which your GP will be well aware of. The basic medication is called tolteradine, though there are several brand names, the one you get will probably depend upon whichever one your gp practice favours (likely to be the cheapest brand in your area, or as dictated by the local CCG). I had reached the stage where I was afraid to go out of the house, in case of "accidents". I hate taking tabs, but have to say these sorted me out v quickly.