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kat1989

kat1989

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Hope someone can help.

Me and my partner have a 2 year old and ive always said id never have a only child.
But on top of some health issues that are being dealt with under conaultant,and now with the diabetes my partner as said we are having no more children as the risk to me and the baby.
I understand hes concerned but i hate the thought of having no more children breaks my heart.
Am i being selfish or should i understand his concerns??
 
Is your consultant happy with you trying for another baby? Has your partner met with. Any other diabetic mums?

He may be the sort of person who needs to research and see statistics. I hope you can move towards a solution that works for you both.
 
I havent mentioned it to my consultant and due to see him end on january so might bring it up then
We get married july next year so obviously ive seven months to get through first before taking it further.
I was only diagnosed september this year and tbh this is the only way to talk to people in similar situations havent got anyone in family or friends who is type one so i feel so isolated from them so this is my only source of understanding from people on this page
 
We all try to help and support on the forum, I wish the Internet was around when I was diagnosed :) so many will know what you are going through.

Take care RRB :)
 
Yeah this is the only place i feel i can be open about the diabetes and the worrys ive got as no one else understands apart from those in the same shoes as minr
 
I think some of the lady posters on here have had more experience with your question of diabetes and coping with having more than one child , and I'm sure these will give you better insight and answers .
 
kat1989 said:
Hope someone can help.

Me and my partner have a 2 year old and ive always said id never have a only child.
But on top of some health issues that are being dealt with under conaultant,and now with the diabetes my partner as said we are having no more children as the risk to me and the baby.
I understand hes concerned but i hate the thought of having no more children breaks my heart.
Am i being selfish or should i understand his concerns??
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Hi @kat1989
I can understand your partner's concerns and also understand you want more children. There are plenty of mums on the forum who have had more than one child without any complications and it seems to me that more research needs to be done before a firm decision is made.
There are guidelines for Type1 diabetics when they are pregnant and I think once you get to grips with your diabetes then you will understand more about the pros and cons.

This site tells you about the genetic risks but the last paragraphs are particularly useful.

An Individual Decision
If there's one thing Dr. Warram feels strongly about, it's not to advise people considering having a baby or marrying someone with diabetes in the family. "I do not mind telling people what we know about diabetes risks, but I am not qualified to give an opinion about their choice. These are matters of personal choice and what's important to me may not be important to someone else," he says.

"To be told a child has a 4 percent or 10 percent risk of diabetes sounds very absolute and scientific," he says. "But a myriad other things can go wrong with a child — medically and socially — and these risks cannot be measured precisely. Also, there are a myriad other things that can go right for a child. Even if a child does develop diabetes, it needn't prevent him or her from finding success and happiness in life. "Raising children — whether they are your own or adopted — is an experience involving risks of great rewards and risks of great costs that can't really be known in advance. If a number can be attached to one of those risks, should it weigh more than the others?

http://www.joslin.org/info/genetics_and_diabetes.html
 
Thank you catherinecherub that has helped and yes need to look into it more and have some medical opionons on it aswell before we completey rule it out in future
 
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