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<blockquote data-quote="Outlier" data-source="post: 2747453" data-attributes="member: 550046"><p>I have learned to eat something before I go to social events that involve food. That way it is easier to refuse-refuse-refuse - smiling but refusing - nobody who pushes me until I frown finds the experience worth repeating. Over many years I have had to repeatedly refuse cigarettes (I've never smoked), interesting-ah-herbal offerings, alcohol when I'm driving - now it's carbs. This kind of bad manners in trying to force me to ingest stuff that <strong>is going to kill me </strong>is yet another power game that people play. I can also do passive aggressive on the lines of "why do you persistently try to give me stuff that is going to kill me?" asked in a sweet gentle voice. But that's <em>my</em> personality and you (all of us) need strategies that work for YOU (us).</p><p></p><p>Do you have proper friends (who accept that this is for your wellbeing) with whom you can role-play? That can be such a help when practising for the real thing. Standing up to bullies (your friend is bullying) usually only has to happen once. Perhaps your accepting-invitation conversation can be a gentle-but-firm reminder on the lines of "Now remember fruit will kill me so be sure not to expect me to eat any" then navigate the oh a little bit won't hurt you and maybe suggest it's okay you'll bring along a small helping of rat poison. Or the first time say a row of NO-No-no and then smile and say "that should be sufficient refusal so you don't need to press me to eat it again". It may make you cringe because so many of us were brought up to be people-pleasers even if those people don't give a rat's rudder about us, but I promise it gets much easier once they realise you aren't going to be forced to do yourself harm just to make them feel good.</p><p></p><p>Bullies back down when we stand up to them. Good luck - I promise the first time is never as bad as you suspect it will be. Then you'll wonder why you didn't do this before. Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Outlier, post: 2747453, member: 550046"] I have learned to eat something before I go to social events that involve food. That way it is easier to refuse-refuse-refuse - smiling but refusing - nobody who pushes me until I frown finds the experience worth repeating. Over many years I have had to repeatedly refuse cigarettes (I've never smoked), interesting-ah-herbal offerings, alcohol when I'm driving - now it's carbs. This kind of bad manners in trying to force me to ingest stuff that [B]is going to kill me [/B]is yet another power game that people play. I can also do passive aggressive on the lines of "why do you persistently try to give me stuff that is going to kill me?" asked in a sweet gentle voice. But that's [I]my[/I] personality and you (all of us) need strategies that work for YOU (us). Do you have proper friends (who accept that this is for your wellbeing) with whom you can role-play? That can be such a help when practising for the real thing. Standing up to bullies (your friend is bullying) usually only has to happen once. Perhaps your accepting-invitation conversation can be a gentle-but-firm reminder on the lines of "Now remember fruit will kill me so be sure not to expect me to eat any" then navigate the oh a little bit won't hurt you and maybe suggest it's okay you'll bring along a small helping of rat poison. Or the first time say a row of NO-No-no and then smile and say "that should be sufficient refusal so you don't need to press me to eat it again". It may make you cringe because so many of us were brought up to be people-pleasers even if those people don't give a rat's rudder about us, but I promise it gets much easier once they realise you aren't going to be forced to do yourself harm just to make them feel good. Bullies back down when we stand up to them. Good luck - I promise the first time is never as bad as you suspect it will be. Then you'll wonder why you didn't do this before. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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