I was told to take it this time (my 3rd pregnancy ) but not in my last pregnancies including a twin one. I was also told it at my 8 wk appointment (which was my 2nd one) but went and googled it first. I thought the reason they may have told me to take it this time was because i was 35 (only just!) Or because policy had changed.
If you feel bullied at appointments i find it helps to take a deep breath and calmly object to what they're saying. If you had an appointment before you conceived and were not told this, it's their fault not yours. It can also be helpful to take someone with you as moral support. It often had the effect of making doctors behave better.....
Good luck and don't worry about it too much.