Getting support

[squishy157]

hi guys i'm fairly new here so here goes lol

i'm a type one diabetic and i was diagnosed at 20 months old and theres no known history of diabetes in either side of my family.

i got bullied alot in high school (the worst comment i got was when i left hospital after a episode of ketoacidosis due to these bullies and not taking any insulin for three days.... BIG MISTAKE i know but after being called a smack head and hearing them shout tha i was shooting heroin in the school bathrooms would make any diabetic upset an a lil annoyed)

but leaving high school i met the sweetest boy through friends who only knew a little about my problem so a couple of dates later i told him the whole story worrying if he would be like the boys from school.... to my amazement he wasn't, he wanted to know the in's and out's of diabetes and also asked me out the next day

we've been together for nearly 4 years now and i've had my ups and downs with being diabetic (recently had a hypoglycemic attack and he's never experienced that with me due to high blood sugars all the time..... habits are hard to kill)

just wanted to know has anyone else had this sort of experience where they found support from there friends and loved ones??

if you could tell me i'd really appreciate this thnx

 

[hismom]

hi,
my son is only 14 and still new to this. his school experience pre-diagnosise wasnt good and I think that the boys would have found something anyway, bullies always do. I have actually removed my son and homeschool him which was much better. when he was diagnosed I worried as he was a member of a few groups and we knew he would have to do blood tests and have insulin in front of them. He has been lucky and hasnt had any mean comments but he has had a few people who have asked him to move away from them while he has his insulin. You are now away from this situation and by the sounds of it have your life together. My advice is not to dwell on the past most people wouldnt dream of acting in that way and the ones that do arent worth bothering with.

 

[Jen&Khaleb]

I've started educating the 3 yr olds at Khaleb's daycare. They always want to come look at his blood tests and see the injections. Hopefully they will grow up to remember a little bit of this and will not bully people in the future. Khaleb is also intellectually impaired so they get to learn a bit of tolerance there also. It is a pity you had to hide away in the bathroom and cop abuse from small minded thoughtless people. I got bullied a little bit at school also but it was because I was flat chested. Some kids need a good slap.

 

[squishy157]

hey,

thanks for both telling me your stories.

as for the bullies all i can say is what comes around goes around as i recently found out through friends that the uneducated idiots who hurled abuse at me are now coping with there own problems with drugs

but the abuse i got from them has always made me feel self concious of injecting in public places such as resturants, movie theatres and parties where friends know of my condition.

now being nearly 21 i have started helping out a family friends little daughter who needed to someone who has type 1 diabetes as she is just started high school and was diagnosed when she was 8.

does anyone know what advice should i give her as i dont want to scare her with my stories but dont want to bore her with the same advice the doctors and nurses will tell her???

 

[Debloubed]

I guess you have to be honest and supportive, no need to tell her about your bullying experiences unless she asks I suppose? Perhaps you can tell her that youa re there to talk to should she have any problems with anyone at school being mean about her Diabetes? Tough call, but the most important thing would be to encourage her to test and eat a healthy diet, which is no different from any other kids really! apart from the testing part ;-)

as for meeting someone who 'gets it' I can totally relate to your story about your boyfriend, I told my other half I was type 1on our first date, he didn't run a mile and has learned as we have gone along! He has been an absolute Godsend with regards to supporting me and understanding about my Diabetes and a few years ago when I had a really, really bad hypo I woke up to find him there (my daughter had called him after she had called the paramedics) and I thought well, you've seen me go through this and you still love me, you must be a good 'un!! :lol: He also came to all my pump appts and even wore an infusion set the first time I had to try one out - gotta love that