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Type 2 Hba1c

fumanchu

fumanchu

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Location
Scotland
Type of diabetes
Family member
Treatment type
Diet only
Husband been driving me mad fussing about his BG readings, always moaning they too high.. Yesterday got bloods back from the doc and his Hba1c is 40! Surely that's good control and no reason to fuss?
 
My last HbA1c was 44, and I will fuss and obsess until I get into the low 30's. That's just me, 40 is on the edge of pre-diabetes. Which would you prefer, his fussing or him 'letting himself go'?
I have been diagnosed for 8 months and the only other people I know of are either determined to control their diabetes or those that let diabetes control them. There doesn't appear to be a middle-of-the-road option

Edit: For a moment I thought you were MY Other Half
 
He's definitely up there with the fussers and obsessors! He's done well though, diagnosed in 2009 and still no meds. Just wish he would fuss SILENTLY!
 
Yes that's good control. The 'fuss' is lifelong though. If we don't keep working hard at it it's easy to slide and then it's so depressing trying to get back on the wagon again. To me the choice is fuss now...or later when the damage has been done. Congratulations to your husband on his achievements so far.
 
You could suggest your hubby joins the forum too? We love fussing about numbers here!
 
He's very dyslexic zand and not into computers at all. I'm the go-between :rolleyes:
 
I would prefer to be fussy and have low readings that let my diabetes get out of control.
My family say I am mad because I test my levels alot and they say I am obsessed. They can,t understand why I would want to spend money on buying test strips. But they are not diabetic, tell a small fib, one of my nephews is type1 but will not test, take his insulin or eat the right things.
 
I don't mind him testing all the time ally that makes sense. But he moans and whines and goes in bad moods at the least wee thing. I'm not well meself but I dont ever moan about it to him. Would be better if we could sit and discuss what maybe went wrong and what we should change - but noo its easier to snap!
 
I am sure my hubby wishes I would just shut up about it as well. My father died at 55 from a massive heart attack, probably from undiagnosed diabetes, my one grandmother died slowly bit by bit from strokes and I had to watch her frustration as she lost the ability to even go to the bathroom on her own and then to speak. By the time she passed, she could not move, speak or swallow any more. My other grandmother spent 20 hours on the floor awake, freezing cold, and unable to get up before her neighbor found her. She died 4 hours after getting to the hospital of heart failure from an enlarged heart from diabetes. Both of them knew they were diabetic and refused to control or even acknowledge their diabetes. It is terrifying to have a disease that can cause these types of outcomes if uncontrolled. Those of us who obsess are often doing it largely out of fear for the future and it helps to share that fear with those we love. I have a hubby who gets negative and snappy easily and it can be frustrating but it could be your hubby feels like he is fighting for his life and you just don't understand. I am not saying that is true, just food for thought. There is a lot of help and support on this site for both of you. It might help if you visit here together. Take care
 
Well to be honest, he was ratty before diabetes lol - but we been married 50 years so I'm beginning to get used to it! Still bugs me though ..
 
I have had mine for 30 and still want to introduce him to the business end of a frying pan at times but I love his grumpy butt. The problem I have with my hubby is I randomly tested him one night after he ate m&m's and he was at 14. I got my doc to sneak an A1c in there and he is 5.9 He refuses to believe there is a problem with that and continues to eat garbage. He has decided that I see diabetes everywhere and is in complete denial. There is nothing I can do about it. He seriously eats like 500-600 grams carb a day easily, most of it in candy and doritos with an ice cream chaser. If I don't buy it, and I don't, he just buys it himself. He is lean but has developed a gut which is a bad sign, doesn't drink so it's not a beer gut. Maybe we should put our husbands together in a locked room and hope they both come out in the middle?
 
Good thinking! Leave them for... oh about 6 months and go on a long cruise ourselves :)
 
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