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<blockquote data-quote="KK123" data-source="post: 1946809" data-attributes="member: 451727"><p>Hi there John. If it is depression, no amount of nagging in the world will change anything. He is 50 and presumably in full charge of his senses, out doing his job, coming home and eating what HE wants to eat. It sounds like he has 'decided' to ignore his health and for all anybody knows maybe his diagnosis is what has assisted in making him depressed. You say your family have ignored things but I would say don't be too harsh on them, maybe they have become overwhelmed with it all for the last 2 years, there is a world of difference between seeing him twice a year and then trying to interpret what has been going on the rest of the year. You sound like a very concerned son and that is to your credit.</p><p></p><p>It's a hard situation to deal with but things like your Mum not buying him sweets etc (in my view) is pointless, he is 50 not 90 and your Mum is not his carer, she is his wife (who cares!). I think you should try and get him to see his GP or maybe a DN who sometimes has more time to chat (has he attended any appointments for his tests, etc?). If he refuses, is it possible you could persuade him to pay for an A1c test, at least that way he could see exactly how his diabetes is affecting him (sometimes an individual becomes scared at seeing a Dr when they know their results will be bad).</p><p></p><p>It's a hard situation, could all the family come together for a conference?, your Mum probably needs help too. In the end it's down to your Dad but until his 'depression' is addressed I really don't think the rest can be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KK123, post: 1946809, member: 451727"] Hi there John. If it is depression, no amount of nagging in the world will change anything. He is 50 and presumably in full charge of his senses, out doing his job, coming home and eating what HE wants to eat. It sounds like he has 'decided' to ignore his health and for all anybody knows maybe his diagnosis is what has assisted in making him depressed. You say your family have ignored things but I would say don't be too harsh on them, maybe they have become overwhelmed with it all for the last 2 years, there is a world of difference between seeing him twice a year and then trying to interpret what has been going on the rest of the year. You sound like a very concerned son and that is to your credit. It's a hard situation to deal with but things like your Mum not buying him sweets etc (in my view) is pointless, he is 50 not 90 and your Mum is not his carer, she is his wife (who cares!). I think you should try and get him to see his GP or maybe a DN who sometimes has more time to chat (has he attended any appointments for his tests, etc?). If he refuses, is it possible you could persuade him to pay for an A1c test, at least that way he could see exactly how his diabetes is affecting him (sometimes an individual becomes scared at seeing a Dr when they know their results will be bad). It's a hard situation, could all the family come together for a conference?, your Mum probably needs help too. In the end it's down to your Dad but until his 'depression' is addressed I really don't think the rest can be. [/QUOTE]
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