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Hi everybody need a bit of advice

sandymaynard

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Hi everybody,
recived a phone call this morning from a pycharist, My mother has signed herself into the unit at her local hospital! Well done mum!
But then the doctor asked me if i was sat down, I said yes, she said that my mum had asked her to tell me a few things,
1) That my mum is in stage 5 renal failure.
2) That she has diabetic renopathy... sorry don't know the spelling it is to do with the eyes. daiabetic related!
3) she has catracts
4) she has glaucoma
5) she needs a op in july to remove a blood clot from the back of her eye
6) That there is a rare medical condition that robs all the female in our family of their eyesight from age 30 onwards! She did not want me to be scared of this happening, she can't remember the name of the eye condition!
7) That she needs to be forgiven for all the stress and trouble that she has caused me!
I am so proud of her! But the health problems she has is there any chance that i will get them! I don't expect a medical answer!
I am now afraid that the eyesight problem will now get worse! Apparently this condition is not picked until too late as the eyes look normal the hole time!
The doctor said that in her first session with my mum, she says that she can work on helping her! The first step has happened she knows she has a problem!
Sandy
 
Sandy,the first thing you need to do is find out what the condition is called then go and talk to your own doctor about it.Some hereditary diseases skip generations so you need to find out before getting yourself all worried about it.
 
hya sandy,
i totally agree with sue, try not to worry as u may not get it hun :D well done to your mum for taking first step
 
Hi Sue and Totsy,
I have talked to haley, she is coming here to stay for two weeks as my mum needs to have two weeks where she can be assesed!
I asked haley to come and stay! I don't want her to be alone, already have a bedroom set up for her! I have put a picture of her and my mum and me into a photo frame and put it onto the draws in her bedroom!
I have mananged to talk to my mum! She was allowed to make a phone call! Bless her! I asked about the medical condition she said she can't remmeber! She said the specialist should know! But all the females in the family have it, my gran,mum,auntie,couson's! The whole lot of females!
I told my mum This to keep her going a little peom!
The hand that you feel in your hand is mine,
The arm around your shoulders is mine
When you need me I am there,
When you need the strenth borrow some of mine,
When you sleep I will watch over you!
I love you mum!
She started crying! I told her that she is my mum! And always will be,I told her i will look after haley and make sure she eats and takes any meds that she needs!
Ah bless her I am so very proud of my mum!
She may be cold at times, and harsh at times! But she is one in a million!
Got to go started myself crying now!
Sandy
 
Aw, Sandy, sending you a big hug. You certainly have a lot to contend with at the moment. Try to stay positive and remember to look after yourself too.
All the best, choccie.
 
Hi Sandy,

A big hug from me too, look after yourself as your mum will need you when she comes out. you are a very special daughter . :)
luv
Bernie
 
Hi Chocolic and bernie,
I just want her to be well! I want her to be better! I want her to know that i am amnd always will be there for her! I am here to stay no matter what!
thank you for your kind words!
Sandy
 
Hi Sandy

Have been thinking about you and your mum today and have just come on line to look for an update - wow! what an update!! I was concerned in case your mum changed her mind - you and I both know how much that happens in psychiatry!! - anyway I am so pleased that she did not change her mind. You have certainly had a lot of different thing to deal with lately and your emotions must be all over the place.

By taking care of Hayley you will be doing everything you can to support your mum.

Love, hugs & kisses, Jude.
 
Hi Jude,
Just phoned hospital up and checked that my mum is still there! I know that sounds bad but i wanted to make sure that she has not signed herself out!
The nurse said she has settled in okay and she is sleeping!
I asked could the nurse just leave a little note on her bedside table! Telling her that I love her and that I am proud of her! And that I will be there the minute she is allowed to leave!
We are setting off at 4am to pick haley up and bring her down here until my mum gets released! Don't want haley to be alone in the bungalow! So she will be here and safe!
All i want is for my mum to be safe and settled! Bless her! I want her not to be in the emotional turmoil that she must be in right now! I have spoken to Haley and she is glad that she is coming down here!
can't wait I will be able to spoil her rotten when she is here! Be able to treat her the way that I want to be able to treat my mum as well!
Sandy
 
Hi there, I am new here and don't know all your story, but I wanted to wish you and your family all the best. I too had a mum that was admitted to hospital for phyciatric care and as the oldest sibling, I looked after my two younger brothers at the time. It is a very emotional and tiring time, Look after yourself and good luck to you all for the future :)
 
Sandy,
whilst hoping it's never necessary, I'd wish that my daughter ( who is lovely and loving) would do as much for me if I ever neeeded it.
You are the perfect daughter to both your Mum and Hayley.
Be proud of yourself and ask some of the other women what that eye condition is.
 
Hi everybody,
Back home now, Haley gone for a sleep! She said that she is going to miss my mum! I told her I understand I miss my mum all the time! But hopefully this place can and will be able to help her!
When we arrived to pick up Haley she had done sandwiches for her and Xrs my fiancee, And done me a salad! Ah bless her! She has brought their dog as well!
Haley misses my mum, I sat on the bed holding haley as she cried herself to sleep! I told her that I love her and always will! Bless her!
I just hope my mum will change!
Sandy
 
Hi Hanadr.
i am sure that your daughter would do everything for you like what I am doing for my mum and Haley!
I just wish that my mum just knew how much I do love her! I feel so alone at times! I just want her to get better!
Sandy
 
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