I hate my weight!

SarahB97 said:

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This is what I look like. In my own opinion of myself I need to lose weight around my stomach, arms and legs and by being able to do .that I will be more happy with myself

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Women! You're just joking with us, right?

SarahB97 said:

Not at all. Like I said in an earlier post I'm tall so it doesn't look so bad but I weigh a lot

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Please believe me when I say 'you have NOTHING to worry about.

Wow! Stay as you are. @Gezzabelle is right - bones sticking out is not a good look! Don't try to look like Posh Spice - ( it doesn't even suit her!)

Anytime you need an internet stalker you know where to find me

Edited: And if you'd like to post more pictures then please feel free! It certainly brightens up an otherwise dreary Sunday.

SarahB97 said:

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This is what I look like. In my own opinion of myself I need to lose weight around my stomach, arms and legs and by being able to do that I will be more happy with myself

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I will say very confidently that you DO NOT have 30kg spare to lose.

30kg, or 66lbs, or 4st 7lbs. In terms of recognisable objects; that is 33 bags of sugar, 120 blocks of butter, and I could go on, but I won't.

SarahB97 said:

Thank you for the compliments and all but I just don't feel what your saying

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This is about your confidence not your looks. That's what needs working on. Honestly.

@SarahB97

At the risk of being boring I shall quote the sage advice of Baz Luhrmann again,
'Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh, never mind
You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth
Until they've faded but trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back
At photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now
How much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked
You are not as fat as you imagine'

Read more: Baz Luhrmann - Everybody's Free (to Wear Sunscreen) Lyrics | MetroLyrics

@SarahB97

Here is the information we give new members, as mentioned above, and I hope you will find it useful and take note of the opinions of the other members who have answered.

BASIC INFORMATION FOR NEWLY DIAGNOSED DIABETICS

Diabetes is the general term to describe people who have blood that is sweeter than normal. A number of different types of diabetes exist.

A diagnosis of diabetes tends to be a big shock for most of us. It’s far from the end of the world though and on this forum you’ll find over 150,000 people who are demonstrating this.

On the forum we have found that with the number of new people being diagnosed with diabetes each day, sometimes the NHS is not being able to give all the advice it would perhaps like to deliver - particularly with regards to people with type 2 diabetes.

The role of carbohydrate

Carbohydrates are a factor in diabetes because they ultimately break down into sugar (glucose) within our blood. We then need enough insulin to either convert the blood sugar into energy for our body, or to store the blood sugar as body fat.

If the amount of carbohydrate we take in is more than our body’s own (or injected) insulin can cope with, then our blood sugar will rise.

The bad news

Research indicates that raised blood sugar levels over a period of years can lead to organ damage, commonly referred to as diabetic complications.

The good news

People on the forum here have shown that there is plenty of opportunity to keep blood sugar levels from going too high. It’s a daily task but it’s within our reach and it’s well worth the effort.

Controlling your carbs

The info below is primarily aimed at people with type 2 diabetes, however, it may also be of benefit for other types of diabetes as well.
There are two approaches to controlling your carbs:

• Reduce your carbohydrate intake
• Choose ‘better’ carbohydrates

Reduce your carbohydrates

A large number of people on this forum have chosen to reduce the amount of carbohydrates they eat as they have found this to be an effective way of improving (lowering) their blood sugar levels.

The carbohydrates which tend to have the most pronounced effect on blood sugar levels tend to be starchy carbohydrates such as rice, pasta, bread, potatoes and similar root vegetables, flour based products (pastry, cakes, biscuits, battered food etc) and certain fruits.

Choosing better carbohydrates

Another option is to replace ‘white carbohydrates’ (such as white bread, white rice, white flour etc) with whole grain varieties. The idea behind having whole grain varieties is that the carbohydrates get broken down slower than the white varieties –and these are said to have a lower glycaemic index.
http://www.diabetes.co.uk/food/diabetes-and-whole-grains.html

The low glycaemic index diet is often favoured by healthcare professionals but some people with diabetes find that low GI does not help their blood sugar enough and may wish to cut out these foods altogether.

Read more on carbohydrates and diabetes

Eating what works for you

Different people respond differently to different types of food. What works for one person may not work so well for another. The best way to see which foods are working for you is to test your blood sugar with a glucose meter.

To be able to see what effect a particular type of food or meal has on your blood sugar is to do a test before the meal and then test after the meal. A test 2 hours after the meal gives a good idea of how your body has reacted to the meal.

The blood sugar ranges recommended by NICE are as follows:

Blood glucose ranges for type 2 diabetes

• Before meals: 4 to 7 mmol/l
• 2 hours after meals: under 8.5 mmol/l

Blood glucose ranges for type 1 diabetes (adults)

• Before meals: 4 to 7 mmol/l
• 2 hours after meals: under 9 mmol/l

Blood glucose ranges for type 1 diabetes (children)

• Before meals: 4 to 8 mmol/l
• 2 hours after meals: under 10 mmol/l

However, those that are able to, may wish to keep blood sugar levels below the NICE after meal targets.

Access to blood glucose test strips

The NICE guidelines suggest that people newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes should be offered:

• structured education to every person and/or their carer at and around the time of diagnosis, with annual reinforcement and review
• self-monitoring of plasma glucose to a person newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes only as an integral part of his or her self-management education

Therefore both structured education and self-monitoring of blood glucose should be offered to people with type 2 diabetes. Read more on getting access to bloodglucose testing supplies.

You may also be interested to read questions to ask at a diabetic clinic

Note: This post has been edited from Sue/Ken's post to include up to date information.

@SarahB97

Hello Sarah and welcome to the forum

Here is the information we give to new members mentioned above which I hope you will find helpful. Ask more questions and someone will help.

BASIC INFORMATION FOR NEW MEMBERS
Diabetes is the general term to describe people who have blood that is sweeter than normal. A number of different types of diabetes exist.

A diagnosis of diabetes tends to be a big shock for most of us. It’s far from the end of the world though and on this forum you’ll find over 150,000 people who are demonstrating this.

On the forum we have found that with the number of new people being diagnosed with diabetes each day, sometimes the NHS is not being able to give all the advice it would perhaps like to deliver - particularly with regards to people with type 2 diabetes.

The role of carbohydrate

Carbohydrates are a factor in diabetes because they ultimately break down into sugar (glucose) within our blood. We then need enough insulin to either convert the blood sugar into energy for our body, or to store the blood sugar as body fat.

If the amount of carbohydrate we take in is more than our body’s own (or injected) insulin can cope with, then our blood sugar will rise.

The bad news

Research indicates that raised blood sugar levels over a period of years can lead to organ damage, commonly referred to as diabetic complications.

The good news

People on the forum here have shown that there is plenty of opportunity to keep blood sugar levels from going too high. It’s a daily task but it’s within our reach and it’s well worth the effort.

Controlling your carbs

The info below is primarily aimed at people with type 2 diabetes, however, it may also be of benefit for other types of diabetes as well.
There are two approaches to controlling your carbs:

• Reduce your carbohydrate intake
• Choose ‘better’ carbohydrates

Reduce your carbohydrates

A large number of people on this forum have chosen to reduce the amount of carbohydrates they eat as they have found this to be an effective way of improving (lowering) their blood sugar levels.

The carbohydrates which tend to have the most pronounced effect on blood sugar levels tend to be starchy carbohydrates such as rice, pasta, bread, potatoes and similar root vegetables, flour based products (pastry, cakes, biscuits, battered food etc) and certain fruits.

Choosing better carbohydrates

Another option is to replace ‘white carbohydrates’ (such as white bread, white rice, white flour etc) with whole grain varieties. The idea behind having whole grain varieties is that the carbohydrates get broken down slower than the white varieties –and these are said to have a lower glycaemic index.
http://www.diabetes.co.uk/food/diabetes-and-whole-grains.html

The low glycaemic index diet is often favoured by healthcare professionals but some people with diabetes find that low GI does not help their blood sugar enough and may wish to cut out these foods altogether.

Read more on carbohydrates and diabetes

Eating what works for you

Different people respond differently to different types of food. What works for one person may not work so well for another. The best way to see which foods are working for you is to test your blood sugar with a glucose meter.

To be able to see what effect a particular type of food or meal has on your blood sugar is to do a test before the meal and then test after the meal. A test 2 hours after the meal gives a good idea of how your body has reacted to the meal.

The blood sugar ranges recommended by NICE are as follows:

Blood glucose ranges for type 2 diabetes

• Before meals: 4 to 7 mmol/l
• 2 hours after meals: under 8.5 mmol/l

Blood glucose ranges for type 1 diabetes (adults)

• Before meals: 4 to 7 mmol/l
• 2 hours after meals: under 9 mmol/l

Blood glucose ranges for type 1 diabetes (children)

• Before meals: 4 to 8 mmol/l
• 2 hours after meals: under 10 mmol/l

However, those that are able to, may wish to keep blood sugar levels below the NICE after meal targets.

Access to blood glucose test strips

The NICE guidelines suggest that people newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes should be offered:

• structured education to every person and/or their carer at and around the time of diagnosis, with annual reinforcement and review
• self-monitoring of plasma glucose to a person newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes only as an integral part of his or her self-management education

Therefore both structured education and self-monitoring of blood glucose should be offered to people with type 2 diabetes. Read more on getting access to bloodglucose testing supplies.

You may also be interested to read questions to ask at a diabetic clinic

Note: This post has been edited from Sue/Ken's post to include up to date information.

You look a pretty similar body shape to me. I am 5' 10" so also quite tall. For years I was obsessed with my weight. When I was diagnosed I weighed 60kg, the lowest I'd ever been and thought that's what I wanted. After diagnosis I've put on 8kg. I hated it, so I switched to low carb and started working out. In the last 4 months my weight has stayed the same yet I'm inches smaller than I was! I'm almost the same measurements as pre diagnosis yet weigh more. But now I'm fitter, stronger and healthier. My point it at your size, you look amazing! Don't get hung up on weight, and certainly not 33kg, that looks like it's about half your current weight! I dont weigh myself much anynore because i dont care now. My clothes are loser and im healthier. Focus on strength, my moto is strong not skinny, and by doing that you'll see your shape change, don't worry about weight.

@SarahB97 Well I haven't said you are being ridiculous or silly. I do understand how you feel, if losing a kg or 2 makes you feel better, then do so by reducing carbs a little. I honestly don't think you need to do that though.

I well remember feeling like you do. I also get the impression that it's not how you look that is bothering you as much as what you weigh. These are just numbers. I have a friend who at 9st 13lbs looks emaciated. Another looks huge at the same weight. I loved being 8 stones something, when I went up in to the 9s I hated it. As a previous poster said, don't worry about what the scales say. You look good - believe it.

SarahB97 said:

Thank you @Trixy83 that is what I want to be fitter and healthier

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Well said,sarah take the good and.........you'll be in shape in no time , i understand what your trying to achieve , as i said get your diet right,sugars in a good place and healthy exercises to tone yourself

SarahB97 said:

I have listened to what you have said and some of it has been helpful but some of it has not been because telling someone who isn't happy with how they look that they are being ridiculous and silly isn't going to miraculously change the way I feel it just makes me feel more bad about myself and kinda makes me wish I hadn't asked for any help

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@SarahB97

The comment was meant to be taken light heartedly, so I'm sorry it was not received that way. I have deleted it.

At about your age, my daughter complained to me that she was 'fat' and she looked the same as you. I understood it was making her miserable, but didn't want her going on some crazy diet that would probably lead to all sorts of other problems later on. I didn't mention it, but I looked upon her figure as just being 'puppy fat', but realised she was far from happy. I suggested that perhaps she should try some exercise which would help lose a few pounds and I mean only a few pounds not 30kg and it would also lead to nicely toned arms, bum, tum and legs. Amazingly for a teenager, she listened to her Mum. She now has a fabulous figure that goes in and out in all the right places and only half a stone lighter (whatever that is in Kgs).

Please don't try to shed weight and become a stick insect like everyone else, it's a very unattractive look. Your self confidence seems to be low at the moment, but drastic weight loss is not going to help. I watched my daughter struggle with her self esteem, but slowly but surely she gained confidence with extra exercise and a little weight loss. She's now happy in the skin she's in.

Trixy83 said:

You look a pretty similar body shape to me. I am 5' 10" so also quite tall. For years I was obsessed with my weight. When I was diagnosed I weighed 60kg, the lowest I'd ever been and thought that's what I wanted. After diagnosis I've put on 8kg. I hated it, so I switched to low carb and started working out. In the last 4 months my weight has stayed the same yet I'm inches smaller than I was! I'm almost the same measurements as pre diagnosis yet weigh more. But now I'm fitter, stronger and healthier. My point it at your size, you look amazing! Don't get hung up on weight, and certainly not 33kg, that looks like it's about half your current weight! I dont weigh myself much anynore because i dont care now. My clothes are loser and im healthier. Focus on strength, my moto is strong not skinny, and by doing that you'll see your shape change, don't worry about weight.

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I wish I could like your post multiple times.