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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Brunneria" data-source="post: 1526162" data-attributes="member: 41816">I'm sorry.I think there is a lot going on in situations like this, and a lot of those things go far, far beyond having diabetes.My own father is type 2 and I have tried various approaches. At various times I have been patient, helpful, supportive, impatient, advisory, bought him a meter and books, let him do his own thing, spoken to my mother and sister... we had one big blow up argument, which achieved nothing but distance for several months.He has always been a reader and learner (I get that from him!) but now he doesn't want to introduces any changes, and if he doesn't use his meter he doesn't see the damage, so he can pretend it isn't happening.I only see them every couple of months, and I have noticed that whatever new steps have been introduced by one visit have always reset by my next visit (testing, reduced portions, etc).  Change is easy when we are young(er).  It becomes much harder the older we get, and habits become set in stone.4 months ago when I went to visit, my Mum was very worried.  Dad had taken a neighbours dog for a walk after a high carb lunch.  Got lost.  Missing for hours.Much worry and agreement that high carb => brainfog and memory issues.  So changes were made, he agreed to carry a mobile.  You can imagine it all, can't you?Then 2 months ago I visited again.  The carb lunches were back.   The mobile was uncharged.  And Dad set off walking as always.Of course I queried it - to their surprise - and they both denied that he had ever got lost.  I still don't know whether it was collective denial or they had genuinely forgotten.  They acted like I was making the whole thing up.  And they had just reverted to the habitual foods, portions, lifestyle and routines they have been enjoying for their 60 year marriage.I just have to take a step back.  Nothing else I can do.  And what I mustn't do is turn into an over-fussing, over-caring, over-managing daughter, because that is going to drive a wedge between us faster than anything else.</blockquote>

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