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Just being unhinged…

Hoodiegirl3

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Type of diabetes
Type 1
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Pump
Hi guys!
Trying my best to stay away from falling back into my mental health issues but my existential crisis will not leave. So my mind is used to spiralling and what I’m about to say is going to make most adults laugh but this girl’s gonna say it anyway…
So…
There is this boy…
Also diabetic…
A few 7 months older than me…
WE ARE ONLY FRIENDS
But he’s going into year eleven and I’m probably going to see a lot less of him and we share everything and in a few years time we will probably forget that the other existed and I don’t want that to happen cuz he’s literally the only person who keeps me from going insane (literally) and we occasionally share our medical stuff
And I know to most of you adults this sounds dumb and it sounds dumb to me too but it was nice to vent.
Now I’m going to click send or in this case create and regret that decision because why do you people even want to hear a teenager rant about a problem that is not even a problem?
 
And now I don’t know how to delete this… after
minutes of thinking… how do I take it down?
 
I’m 64 and it doesn’t sound daft at all to me. Right now he gets your problems and you get his. It’s important.

But here is where I get all adulty on you. You may grow apart, but others will come in to help fill that void. You won’t forget that person who was so important to you, but you will find others.

You can delete it if you want, but I think more of us will understand than you think. Just because we are now older doesn’t mean we didn’t feel similar in the past.
 
@Hoodiegirl3 these days there are so many ways to keep in touch - when I left home my parents didn't even have a telephone landline. It was 1969 - we wrote letters.

In the 1800's people went to the other side of the world and still managed to keep in touch - I think you'll be just fine.

It isn't dumb to be concerned about these things - it isn't a teenage problem, believe me, but I can still contact my first husband and I divorced him almost 50 years ago now. If anything, stopping contact is a much bigger problem.
 
People don’t always drift apart - I’m 63 and I still see my best friend from school, we met in what you now call year 7 at 11 years old. We live a few hours apart but still behave like eleven year olds 4 times a year when we meet up.

I also have old work friends who when we stopped working together we said “let’s not say we’ll keep in touch because we won’t so been great knowing you bye bye” still in touch with a couple of them 40 years later.

Friendships need work but if you cherish a friendship & nurture it they can last a lifetime
 
Hey @Hoodiegirl3
I am not laughing, and I don’t think it sounds dumb, at all.
Your feelings are intense. You have found a friend who understands and supports you. You are probably supporting him, too. Being a teenager is tough! Feelings are intense, and change, frequently. Those of us who have replied, so far, have lived through that, and survived to tell the tale.

When I read your post, I immediately thought that you have the intelligence and maturity to understand the following piece about friendships. You are not ‘unhinged’, just anxious about life.

Reason, Season, And A Lifetime By Brian A. Drew Chalker

This beautifully written poem goes on to explain why people show up in our lives.
motivateus.com

Not going to lie to you, your current friendship could be for life, but it is not a guarantee. Time will tell. Hope you can just enjoy the present, and not worry about the future.

Oh, and I think you have had some replies to your posts in here from people who will be friends for a reason, or maybe a season. I am truly delighted and grateful for your presence, and your input also reminds me that teenagers are wonderful, people. Thank you for trusting us with your insights on your life challenges.

Edit for typo. I probably missed a few more.
 
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This made me smile
 
I agree with the responses above @Hoodiegirl3 . My first girlfriend at uni was fascinated by diabetes and even asked me to teach her how to tap the air out of a glass syringe and then mix rapid and slow insulins. The relationship was like fire and water, but she is still a great friend and my 41 year old daughter's Godmother! He is valuable to you now, regardless of what happens in the future. Incidentally my second girlfriend at uni has been my wife since 1982. She was just as fascinated about and responsible with diabetes.
 
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