Hi Molly i have wondered myself sometimes. I guess the more we care about someone the more difficult it is to let go. Someone said to me once maybe you can help someone in away that you might not think is helping. I.e. Letting them know your there but letting them fly alone. It can be hard to do though but great for the personJust wondered.....at what point do you give up trying to help someone that doesn't want to help themselves....
....and how do you deal with someone who has convinced themselves that higher blood sugars are ok.....comments thrown at me include 'you don't understand....my body is not designed to run at lower levels'....'if I try to get down to the levels they suggest it makes me feel ill'....Just wondered.....at what point do you give up trying to help someone that doesn't want to help themselves....
....and how do you deal with someone who has convinced themselves that higher blood sugars are ok.....comments thrown at me include 'you don't understand....my body is not designed to run at lower levels'....'if I try to get down to the levels they suggest it makes me feel ill'....
....current bs levels running somewhere between 10 and 15..at one point going down to 8 or 9.....so nowhere near hypo symptoms....just his body getting used to normal levels if it goes lower than what he is used to......
....and how do you deal with noticing the signs of diabetic complications like neuropathy in his hands making simple daily tasks more difficult....believe me I have tried to explain that this is nerve damage caused by high bs but he still maintains that higher bs levels are right for him.....I'm definitely losing the battle here and the will to help....
@Robinredbreast @Fayefaye1429 @Indy51 @zand @Bluetit1802 ....thank you all for your contributions....am just off out to work now but will respond to your points later....
As someone who has had insulin problems, it is the insulin that is gaining him weight. Something that he will have to adjust.Thought perhaps I should update with a few positives....things have definitely improved since my original postings last year...for a start he is no longer in total denial about his diabetes which is where I was at the end of last year for those that remember...
..since starting on the insulin he is now testing his bs levels on a daily basis and is taking his medication regularly...diet has improved recently and he will now only eat salads for dinner with whatever meat or fish I am cooking...he knows that carbs are the enemy and will look at carb content when shopping and eating...he no longer eats potatoes and has virtually cut out bread (except for eggs on toast that he has for lunch and the occasional bread roll)...I also overheard him talking to a family member on the phone recently so he is openly accepting and talking about it now.....
...he is also in regular contact with the diabetic nurse who has been phoning him on a weekly or biweekly basis to see how he is doing...he has also been to roughly monthly appointments with her to review progress and medications (@Robinredbreast @Enclave ...I have taken a definite step back here and let him get on with it for the reasons that you state..)
..on a slightly negative point he has put on approx 20lbs in 20 weeks since starting the insulin...diet as stated above has been changed so I can only assume that the insulin is encouraging fat storage if not enough carbs to mop it up...I could be totally wrong on this point but can't see how his insulin will reduce as on set dosage morning and evening.....on a positive note he has asked diabetic nurse about exercise referral and forms have been filled in for this...is waiting to hear but seems keen to do it...
@Indy51 ..I have made it clear that there are certain things that I am not prepared to do and have told him in no uncertain terms that he will just have to find other ways of doing them...
@zand ...I am very much looking after myself and doing what you say....my health and wellbeing are important and i am concentrating on what I can do for myself...
@Fayefaye1429 ...I have already spoken to my GP and voiced my concerns partly as a way of making sure I look after my own wellbeing as it is important for them to be aware of the situation and provide support for me if and when needed.....I agreed and went to some counselling sessions earlier in the year to deal with this and other issues but have refused antidepressants as I don't feel that I am depressed in itself...just in a sometimes depressing situation....I feel more relaxed and less stressed about all of this then I did ...am hoping the messages given to the GP get back to the diabetic nurse and that more encouragement can come from the professionals to make the life changes that he needs...
@Bluetit1802 ....locking him out of his room would be better ....he spends far too much of the day in bed.... @Robinredbreast ...if he was my child or an adolescent I could insist that he gets up ...but he isn't...
@Enclave ....I am throwing away the cotton wool...
I hope this shows that some progress has been made but that there are still points that frustrate me....hence my original question....it's not easy by any means especially when I can see the signs of decline happening before me....
Stepping back now and getting on with something more exciting...
@nosher8355 ....this is what I thought...he is currently on Novomix 30 ....28 units in the morning and 28 units in the evening...As someone who has had insulin problems, it is the insulin that is gaining him weight. Something that he will have to adjust.
Someone on insulin will post how to do it.
So glad you have had a response from him. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind!
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