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Just wondering about how my mum died...

Sam72

Sam72

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Location
Stafford
Type of diabetes
Type 2
Treatment type
Tablets (oral)
When I was diagnosed with T2 I was asked about family history and told the doc my dad developed type 2 in his 60s. He died of lung cancer at 72 of lung cancer unrelated to DB. The doc asked about anyone else and I said no.

However, it has been playing on my mind whether my mum was an undiagnosed type 2. She was being treated for anxiety and depression and I think the docs thought she was a bit of a hypochondriac as she complained for years about digestion problems, tiredness, stomach pains. She had asthma and thyroid problems too. As far as I know she wasn't tested for diabetes. This sounds like she was a wreck but she was actually quite fit and healthy and only slightly overweight. To get to the point, at 60 she developed severe digestion problems, given antibiotics and booked for a scan but she suddenly deteriorated really rapidly, her stomach and right leg swelled and she was rushed into intensive care. In intensive care they mentioned that they were worried that they would have to amputate her leg which shocked me as she had never complained of leg problems, but she died the next day. This happened over two weeks. As you can imagine I was in total shock and only remember the docs telling me it was complications of pancreatitis.

I'm 42 and just been diagnosed with type 2 which has been a big blow and I'm still getting my head round it but I'm now really scared my mums death could happen to me? It happened so suddenly I've never really got over it although it was 6 years ago now. Does anyone think this might be related to diabetes? Am I silly to be worried about it? I'm not normally paranoid but diabetes has made me think about my own mortality,

Real bundle of sunshine I am today! Sorry!!
 
Sam72 said:
Does anyone think this might be related to diabetes? Am I silly to be worried about it? I'm not normally paranoid but diabetes has made me think about my own mortality,
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We will never know if your Mum's problems had anything to do with diabetes but pancreatitis does not sound good. There is nothing you can do to change things for you Mother so look forward. Thinking about your own mortality is good since you have the opportunity to change things in your own life.

The Sun is shining here.
 
Hi @Sam72 If you want to view the health records of your Mum, under the Access to Health Records Act (1990) you can apply in writing to the record holder. ( there may be some information which will put your mind at ease, naturally old records can be upsetting yet worth holding unto for future reference ).
Keep up your good control and please do not worry to much.
 
Sam72 said:
When I was diagnosed with T2 I was asked about family history and told the doc my dad developed type 2 in his 60s. He died of lung cancer at 72 of lung cancer unrelated to DB. The doc asked about anyone else and I said no.

However, it has been playing on my mind whether my mum was an undiagnosed type 2. She was being treated for anxiety and depression and I think the docs thought she was a bit of a hypochondriac as she complained for years about digestion problems, tiredness, stomach pains. She had asthma and thyroid problems too. As far as I know she wasn't tested for diabetes. This sounds like she was a wreck but she was actually quite fit and healthy and only slightly overweight. To get to the point, at 60 she developed severe digestion problems, given antibiotics and booked for a scan but she suddenly deteriorated really rapidly, her stomach and right leg swelled and she was rushed into intensive care. In intensive care they mentioned that they were worried that they would have to amputate her leg which shocked me as she had never complained of leg problems, but she died the next day. This happened over two weeks. As you can imagine I was in total shock and only remember the docs telling me it was complications of pancreatitis.

I'm 42 and just been diagnosed with type 2 which has been a big blow and I'm still getting my head round it but I'm now really scared my mums death could happen to me? It happened so suddenly I've never really got over it although it was 6 years ago now. Does anyone think this might be related to diabetes? Am I silly to be worried about it? I'm not normally paranoid but diabetes has made me think about my own mortality,

Real bundle of sunshine I am today! Sorry!!
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Hi Sam how awful to have these unanswered questions , I have the same problem with my grandparents and their health ( all in the past now ) but I see links there ...and I am not the only blood line diabetic ...I am type 2 another family member type 1 .of my generation line ...I think my grandmother died of undiagnosed db , she had pancreatitis .....you may never have the answers ....but you have your memories some of which you may never have answers to ...but izzi gives you an idea which you may find helpful ....I never believe people are hypochondriac i think people just try to be heard re their health ....and that is what you must do look after your health as best you can ...thinking of you Kat ...
 
Sam72 said:
When I was diagnosed with T2 I was asked about family history and told the doc my dad developed type 2 in his 60s. He died of lung cancer at 72 of lung cancer unrelated to DB. The doc asked about anyone else and I said no.

However, it has been playing on my mind whether my mum was an undiagnosed type 2. She was being treated for anxiety and depression and I think the docs thought she was a bit of a hypochondriac as she complained for years about digestion problems, tiredness, stomach pains. She had asthma and thyroid problems too. As far as I know she wasn't tested for diabetes. This sounds like she was a wreck but she was actually quite fit and healthy and only slightly overweight. To get to the point, at 60 she developed severe digestion problems, given antibiotics and booked for a scan but she suddenly deteriorated really rapidly, her stomach and right leg swelled and she was rushed into intensive care. In intensive care they mentioned that they were worried that they would have to amputate her leg which shocked me as she had never complained of leg problems, but she died the next day. This happened over two weeks. As you can imagine I was in total shock and only remember the docs telling me it was complications of pancreatitis.

I'm 42 and just been diagnosed with type 2 which has been a big blow and I'm still getting my head round it but I'm now really scared my mums death could happen to me? It happened so suddenly I've never really got over it although it was 6 years ago now. Does anyone think this might be related to diabetes? Am I silly to be worried about it? I'm not normally paranoid but diabetes has made me think about my own mortality,

Real bundle of sunshine I am today! Sorry!!
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But you are not an undiagnosed diabetic and that makes all the difference. In some respects we are lucky because we have been diagnosed so you've had the advice (or not depending on your doc:rolleyes:) and you've been posting on and reading this forum so the chances are you are in control and that makes a massive difference. If she was undiagnosed she would have been doing the damage for a long time. Sounds to me like you need a cup of tea, a big hug and a day of pampering! Biggggg virtual huuuuuggggss coming your way! Can't provide the cup of tea or the pampering I'm afraid! ;)
 
Thank you all - you are so right. It's easy to feel low and pessimistic sometimes but yes- I am taking control so the situation is different. Thanks again fir your support. Today is another day!​
 
Sam72 said:
Thank you all - you are so right. It's easy to feel low and pessimistic sometimes but yes- I am taking control so the situation is different. Thanks again fir your support. Today is another day!​
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We all have days when we feel emotional. It's a life long condition which at best can be kept at bay through a strict eating regime. It is one long emotional roller coaster ride! I have 2 St 6lbs to lose. I put on weight as I had more alcohol this week whilst on hols this week and 2 shared desserts plus birthday cake. Back in routine next week so hopefully my 2lb gain will go. Generally I like my food but there are days when I feel resentful! Hugs!
 
I think we have similar goals @scandichick!

I've got to get my BG Down from 13.9 since diagnosed in sept. Currently around 7s/8s. And also got to lose 2 stones as well ideally. We've been away for half term and I managed not to put anything on which I'm happy with. Managing to stay under my carb limit but over cal limit.
 
Sam72 said:
I think we have similar goals @scandichick!

I've got to get my BG Down from 13.9 since diagnosed in sept. Currently around 7s/8s. And also got to lose 2 stones as well ideally. We've been away for half term and I managed not to put anything on which I'm happy with. Managing to stay under my carb limit but over cal limit.
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Pain isn't it! I got a bit down about going backwards but these things happen! Onwards and downwards! :D You've done well to get to 7/8s from 13.9 - keep going! You'll get there!
 
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