Lonely

Gosh, yes Ash I had to learn that the hard way too, a steep learning curve there for me.

Anyway I am selfish and lazy too, wallowing in self pity big time, I am off sick from work and bored out of my skull hence all those posts here.

Had my bunions operated on, ready for summer so that I can wear sandals again. But that hurts big time, booohooohooo.

Karen x

Challenges can be stumbling blocks or stepping stones, it depends how you view them

Any time, hope all goes well for you both.

Karen x

Challenges can be stumbling blocks or stepping stones, it depends how you view them

If it does pan out for you, make him in no doubt that you don't want to build a future with someone who has this type of problem.

I stopped smoking a few weeks before I got together with my OH and as a non smoker, she made it very clear that she didn't want to be with one who does.

I had a few lapses, but I could see how upset she was when I did and that was enough for me to quit again (I was a 20 a day smoker for years before).

Its done me for 20 years now, and I know I'd have not been able to stay stopped if I didn't have her support.

HBa1C 6.3 T2

Just been reading the posts on this thread, and wanted to add my own piece of mini-wisdom! The writing to your ex really does help. Mine went off years ago with a "younger model" (a term I use loosely as she was a big woman!). Left with two young kids, I just got on with things for their sake, and everything came back to me recently when they both flew the nest. I nearly filled a short-hand notebook with letters to the ex, and have finally been able to have closure. It really does work, and its amazing once you put pen to paper what stuff pores out! Also a dear friend of mine recommended a self-help book called "The Key: The Missing Secret for Attracting Anything You Want" by Joe Vitale, I have found it invaluable, and as a recently diagnosed Type 2, I am referring back to his words of wisdom to help me cope.

Hi Sugarless Sue,
I'm 32 Years old and have never been married. I always seemed to fall at the final hurdle as your blood sugar fluctuates so much and moves that you need to be diabetic to understand really that you have different moods and need to understand them. Anyway I hope you make it up with your Fiancee and friends, And I hope you are happy at work again soon. Just keep doing general tasks and lose yourself in your thoughts. Thinking about what to eat and what carbohydrates are in each product and wether it is good or bad for you should keep you occupied enough as it does with me. I buy a Daily Newspaper ,The Sun actually, and I still live with my parents so they buy most of the things that I need to use, including The Lancashire Evening Post Newspaper in the evenings.I live in Preston and they are Knocking our Bus Station down soon and building us a new one under the Grosvenor Scheme where they Lease the Town Centre off to Grosvenor Building Estates for 120 Years from the Council. They are just finishing off in Liverpool and start here in 2010. They are drilling round our Bus Station and surrounding areas to see what kind of ground the foundations are built on. I hope you reply back and PM me. My name is mark and I am looking for work by doing a course in Preston. Take care for now and speak to you again soon, I hope your life picks up soon .

Welcome to the forum Mark,I think you were addressing CSW not me BTW! :lol:
NOTE:: Never ever leave you phone number/email addy or any other personal details on an internet forum.We are trawled by 'spiders' all the time and in no time you would be receiving zillions of spam by email and god knows what on the phone.Protect yourself,,only use the PM facility on the forum until you can be sure you trust the person you are speaking too.Then it's up to your judgement whether you give out personal details.

Hi, CSW,

In coming here, you've found anonymous friends to chat to. As a Christian, we have a heavenly friend to chat to, wherever we are. Jesus is non-judgemental & a friend of sinners, & he understands.

Specifically, what do/did you enjoy doing together :?: Cuddling on the settee with a film on the TV & a glass handy? Or shared activities - music, dancing, sport? How did you envisage married life? Eating out, with a bottle of wine, or pubbing, is not a sound basis for a healthy marriage.

What do YOU like doing, or did like before you met him? An activity shared with a group would be a positive way forward, but don't be in too much hurry to pair up again. But at 34, are you concerned with your biological clock?

Errrr....huh?

Dear CSW
If it wasn't to be, it's better to break up BEFORE you got married. Nevertheless, it hurts. I can't say I understand, because I'm still married to the only man I was ever engaged to. I do know that one of the best things, to take you out of yourself is to do something for others. And probabaly the only mixed age community that most of us can find outside our own families is a religiousgroup. church or mosque or temple. If religion isn't your thing, Try finding somewhere to volunteer. My local paper is always asking for helpers at an assortment of things, from charity shops to Nursing homes. You can be sure that someone somewhere needs your help. Hospitals wouldn't function without volunteers.