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<blockquote data-quote="eshobabu" data-source="post: 2325428" data-attributes="member: 531419"><p>First, diabetes of 2020 is not the same as diabetes of 2000, 1980, 1960. Today, many T1 diabetics are able to maintain normal sugar levels (even better than normal) because of advances in pumps, cgms, insulin, and nutrition. Let me answer your questions:</p><p></p><p>1. What are the real possibilities of T1D patients getting organ failures / heart conditions/ other horrible diseases we read about on the internet? Does it only happen because of poor management of glucose? </p><p>-> See my comment above, it requires discipline, but like with non-diabetics, your body will work with you if you take care of it. You could have a non diabetic smoking 3 packs a day and have worse complications. Technology is making the management of this disease easier every day and I envision it will continue to get better. As of right now, we can maintain very good sugar levels - it just takes time. Maybe 15-30 minutes a day. </p><p></p><p>2. What are the possibilities of having a child with T1D as well? (My boyfriend has no T1D family history, I believe he was diagnosed because he had a heart complications/ problems as a child -- the cardiovascular problem is sorted now) </p><p>-> There are lots of factors involved here. Age at diagnosis, age at child birth, family history on both sides. But, there is a real statistical probability, and genetics do play a role. You may want to talk to a endocrinologist who can look at more specifics.</p><p></p><p>3. What are some things he can do to prevent the diseases arising from T1D? </p><p>-> See my answer to #1. Just maintain glucose levels. There is technology today that didn't exist 10 years ago that lets you monitor in real time, on your phone what your sugar levels are. And it will get better with time. You need to be disciplined. </p><p></p><p>4. He is generally a very stressed out and anxious person, what are some ways you alleviate stress? </p><p>-> This has nothing to do with diabetes. I am the same. I don't have diabetes. </p><p></p><p>5. What is the ideal average blood glucose levels he should be getting?</p><p>-> 80-140. T1D's usually spike after meals, but with better bolus timing, and with pumps and cgms and faster insulins, this is getting easier and easier to achieve.</p><p></p><p>A lot of the answers to your questions are simple google searches, so I think you are here just to get positive emotional validation to counteract the negative one you are getting from your parents. My daughter is a Type 1 D, I love my child to death. I would never want her to be in a relationship where the other person feels there are so many concerns (the ones you mentioned above) for them to make a decision.</p><p></p><p>Please don't get me wrong, I understand where you are coming from. All I am saying is when life gets messy and the stress of marriage piles on top of your concerns you already have, both of you will end up resenting each other. I don't know what culture you are from, but in those cultures where parents play an outsized role, your parents will continue to have the "I told you so" attitude which won't help your relationship either.</p><p></p><p>I know it sounds great to say follow your heart and everything will fall in to place, but you should not marry this person unless you feel you cannot imagine a life without them - don't marry someone you can live with. Marry someone you cannot live without. And please, don't misunderstand me - I am in no way being judgmental towards you, I completely understand where you are coming from.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="eshobabu, post: 2325428, member: 531419"] First, diabetes of 2020 is not the same as diabetes of 2000, 1980, 1960. Today, many T1 diabetics are able to maintain normal sugar levels (even better than normal) because of advances in pumps, cgms, insulin, and nutrition. Let me answer your questions: 1. What are the real possibilities of T1D patients getting organ failures / heart conditions/ other horrible diseases we read about on the internet? Does it only happen because of poor management of glucose? -> See my comment above, it requires discipline, but like with non-diabetics, your body will work with you if you take care of it. You could have a non diabetic smoking 3 packs a day and have worse complications. Technology is making the management of this disease easier every day and I envision it will continue to get better. As of right now, we can maintain very good sugar levels - it just takes time. Maybe 15-30 minutes a day. 2. What are the possibilities of having a child with T1D as well? (My boyfriend has no T1D family history, I believe he was diagnosed because he had a heart complications/ problems as a child -- the cardiovascular problem is sorted now) -> There are lots of factors involved here. Age at diagnosis, age at child birth, family history on both sides. But, there is a real statistical probability, and genetics do play a role. You may want to talk to a endocrinologist who can look at more specifics. 3. What are some things he can do to prevent the diseases arising from T1D? -> See my answer to #1. Just maintain glucose levels. There is technology today that didn't exist 10 years ago that lets you monitor in real time, on your phone what your sugar levels are. And it will get better with time. You need to be disciplined. 4. He is generally a very stressed out and anxious person, what are some ways you alleviate stress? -> This has nothing to do with diabetes. I am the same. I don't have diabetes. 5. What is the ideal average blood glucose levels he should be getting? -> 80-140. T1D's usually spike after meals, but with better bolus timing, and with pumps and cgms and faster insulins, this is getting easier and easier to achieve. A lot of the answers to your questions are simple google searches, so I think you are here just to get positive emotional validation to counteract the negative one you are getting from your parents. My daughter is a Type 1 D, I love my child to death. I would never want her to be in a relationship where the other person feels there are so many concerns (the ones you mentioned above) for them to make a decision. Please don't get me wrong, I understand where you are coming from. All I am saying is when life gets messy and the stress of marriage piles on top of your concerns you already have, both of you will end up resenting each other. I don't know what culture you are from, but in those cultures where parents play an outsized role, your parents will continue to have the "I told you so" attitude which won't help your relationship either. I know it sounds great to say follow your heart and everything will fall in to place, but you should not marry this person unless you feel you cannot imagine a life without them - don't marry someone you can live with. Marry someone you cannot live without. And please, don't misunderstand me - I am in no way being judgmental towards you, I completely understand where you are coming from. [/QUOTE]
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