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<blockquote data-quote="Stefp" data-source="post: 2325948" data-attributes="member: 530565"><p>Hi ye6911,</p><p>You have had a fair few responses so I don’t know if my post will add to them but for what it’s worth below are my thoughts on your questions. As a type 1 diabetic for 30 years who has been married for 22 years, I think my husband wishes he had known more about this condition but I don’t think it would have changed his decision to marry me - being informed and knowing what to expect is important but with any partnership you can never fully know what is in the future and you have to be willing to take in the good and the bad! Anything can, and does, happen.</p><p></p><p>1. What are the real possibilities of T1D patients getting organ failures / heart conditions/ other horrible diseases we read about on the internet? Does it only happen because of poor management of glucose? </p><p></p><p>Poor diabetes management can definitely increase the chances of complications, but great control is not always easy - sometimes you can do everything right but not get the results you would expect. There are no guarantees- but there are also no guarantees that you or your partner won’t fall out of a tree or get cancer.</p><p></p><p>2. What are the possibilities of having a child with T1D as well? (My boyfriend has no T1D family history, I believe he was diagnosed because he had a heart complications/ problems as a child -- the cardiovascular problem is sorted now) </p><p></p><p>I have 3 children - 22, 19 and 15 - at this stage none of my children have diabetes. There is a very small increased chance of children of type 1 diabetics inheriting the condition.</p><p></p><p>3. What are some things he can do to prevent the diseases arising from T1D? </p><p></p><p>Look after his diet and keep his blood sugar levels as low as he can.</p><p></p><p>4. He is generally a very stressed out and anxious person, what are some ways you alleviate stress? </p><p></p><p>Exercise, having someone supportive to talk and vent to, maybe a psychologist.</p><p></p><p>5. What is the ideal average blood glucose levels he should be getting? </p><p></p><p>Ideal is exactly that - while type 1 diabetics aim for as ‘ideal’ as possible, it is impossible to achieve this all the time - stress, sadness, exercise, sunlight, temperature, hormones and a while list of things affect blood glucose - it is not your job as his partner to control and micromanage someone else’s diabetes treatment - be supportive and help when asked, such as during a hypo or seesawing levels, but do not try to control his levels or condition unless asked. You do not have to live with diabetes 24-7, your partner does - this can be exhausting, frustrating and depressing some of the time and having a partner who makes you more worried or disappointed when things go wrong will add to the burden!</p><p></p><p>Good luck - I hope you work things out - the best person to talk to about this stuff, and your concerns, is your partner.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Stefp, post: 2325948, member: 530565"] Hi ye6911, You have had a fair few responses so I don’t know if my post will add to them but for what it’s worth below are my thoughts on your questions. As a type 1 diabetic for 30 years who has been married for 22 years, I think my husband wishes he had known more about this condition but I don’t think it would have changed his decision to marry me - being informed and knowing what to expect is important but with any partnership you can never fully know what is in the future and you have to be willing to take in the good and the bad! Anything can, and does, happen. 1. What are the real possibilities of T1D patients getting organ failures / heart conditions/ other horrible diseases we read about on the internet? Does it only happen because of poor management of glucose? Poor diabetes management can definitely increase the chances of complications, but great control is not always easy - sometimes you can do everything right but not get the results you would expect. There are no guarantees- but there are also no guarantees that you or your partner won’t fall out of a tree or get cancer. 2. What are the possibilities of having a child with T1D as well? (My boyfriend has no T1D family history, I believe he was diagnosed because he had a heart complications/ problems as a child -- the cardiovascular problem is sorted now) I have 3 children - 22, 19 and 15 - at this stage none of my children have diabetes. There is a very small increased chance of children of type 1 diabetics inheriting the condition. 3. What are some things he can do to prevent the diseases arising from T1D? Look after his diet and keep his blood sugar levels as low as he can. 4. He is generally a very stressed out and anxious person, what are some ways you alleviate stress? Exercise, having someone supportive to talk and vent to, maybe a psychologist. 5. What is the ideal average blood glucose levels he should be getting? Ideal is exactly that - while type 1 diabetics aim for as ‘ideal’ as possible, it is impossible to achieve this all the time - stress, sadness, exercise, sunlight, temperature, hormones and a while list of things affect blood glucose - it is not your job as his partner to control and micromanage someone else’s diabetes treatment - be supportive and help when asked, such as during a hypo or seesawing levels, but do not try to control his levels or condition unless asked. You do not have to live with diabetes 24-7, your partner does - this can be exhausting, frustrating and depressing some of the time and having a partner who makes you more worried or disappointed when things go wrong will add to the burden! Good luck - I hope you work things out - the best person to talk to about this stuff, and your concerns, is your partner. [/QUOTE]
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