So what does she have to lose? If she's showing symptoms of diabetes then it's more dangerous NOT to go to the doctor. Same with the possibility of cancer - better to catch that early before any symptoms are obvious.First of all, please let me apologise for posting such a melodramatic thread! I was feeling sorry for myself as my BG hadn't been below 8 for a few days no matter what I did, and I felt I wasn't being supported at home.
I probably would have deleted it but you were all kind enough to reply
It was a genuine conversation that I had with my wife, she thinks she has symptoms of high BG; thirst, lethargy, blurred vision and tiredness. She doesn't want to get tested as she is convinced that she will be diagnosed with cancer at an early age as her mother and both grandmothers passed away relatively young, due to cancer. All of them were very heavy smokers. There is nothing to suggest that this belief is anywhere near to becoming a reality.
The conversation was cut short as we were meeting friends, and sadly I don't think it will be revisited any time soon.
Incidentally I've used my meter to test my wife's BG twice (she asked me to obviously, I didn't just sneak up on her with a lancet and test strip!!), and both times her levels were perfectly normal.
Yes we have children, two have grown up and flown the nest, we have one left at home, and I do most of the cooking.
I guess I'll just have to learn to not talk at home as much about my diabetes and diet, and wait for my wife to bring it up if she wants to.
That leaves you lovely people as my support network, you lucky lucky people
Thanks again for your replies, and again apologies for the drama.
Steve
Why are you sorry?! If you have a non diabetic partner then they don't always understand and since it's highly unlikely that we're all going to meet up then rant away, feel sorry for yourself and be as melodramatic as you please! It's natural to care about your partner!First of all, please let me apologise for posting such a melodramatic thread! I was feeling sorry for myself as my BG hadn't been below 8 for a few days no matter what I did, and I felt I wasn't being supported at home.
I probably would have deleted it but you were all kind enough to reply
It was a genuine conversation that I had with my wife, she thinks she has symptoms of high BG; thirst, lethargy, blurred vision and tiredness. She doesn't want to get tested as she is convinced that she will be diagnosed with cancer at an early age as her mother and both grandmothers passed away relatively young, due to cancer. All of them were very heavy smokers. There is nothing to suggest that this belief is anywhere near to becoming a reality.
The conversation was cut short as we were meeting friends, and sadly I don't think it will be revisited any time soon.
Incidentally I've used my meter to test my wife's BG twice (she asked me to obviously, I didn't just sneak up on her with a lancet and test strip!!), and both times her levels were perfectly normal.
Yes we have children, two have grown up and flown the nest, we have one left at home, and I do most of the cooking.
I guess I'll just have to learn to not talk at home as much about my diabetes and diet, and wait for my wife to bring it up if she wants to.
That leaves you lovely people as my support network, you lucky lucky people
Thanks again for your replies, and again apologies for the drama.
Steve
So what does she have to lose? If she's showing symptoms of diabetes then it's more dangerous NOT to go to the doctor. Same with the possibility of cancer - better to catch that early before any symptoms are obvious.
Why are you sorry?! If you have a non diabetic partner then they don't always understand and since it's highly unlikely that we're all going to meet up then rant away, feel sorry for yourself and be as melodramatic as you please! It's natural to care about your partner!
I asked who does the cooking because you can probably low carb it without even mentioning it. Unless my husband doesn't like it, he doesn't really mind what we eat although the kids are kicking off about the ratatouille covered in Brie and melted in the oven - heathens! Lol!
Hope you feel better!
Semiphonic, you are a gem, very supportive of your wife, I am sure that she sees this. Perhaps she needs to see her GP to rule out any underlying problems that are making her tired and lethargic like perhaps a thyroid problem. I am sure that with your support she will come through this, and then maybe your BG's will settle again. Hope all goes well.
No apology necessary - we all get down days.
Thank heaven for the forum eh?!
Now I'm not in any manner a professional semiphonic, these are simply my own thoughts,
but from your details it's obvious you're dear wife is really not able to accept what the future,
rightly or wrongly, may hold for herself and all that that will entail, therefore her only way of
dealing with it is blanking it out of her mind. (not uncommon)
You'll be doing this anyway, despite your own needs, but it's certainly going to call for a lot of love and understanding.
She'll want everyone to understand she just doesn't want to discuss it (at the moment).
Love and understanding...... she'll be desperate to receive it, in bucket-loads but, as you mention, no discussion.
When she's ready, she will want to share her innermost thoughts and fears with you.
The thing is, as you so rightly know, she just has to see your doctor. Is there a possibility you yourself could have
a word with your doctor in the first instance, or does your own health problems rule that out?
Can you think of anyone at all your wife would open up to?
What a predicament you both find yourselves in, I feel so sorry for you.
With kind personal regards.
willie.
If she can go Low cARB It will help enormously as it will keep her BG s nice and level and fortify her against other disease too.
I have decided that you are also a heathen for your remarks about my ratatouille! Lol! I have also made a tomato and cod soup which my youngest told me had the consistency and appearance of sick. Don't you just love kids! Hope you're feeling better today!
She might perceive it as a lack of trust?I think if someone jabbed me for a blood test when i was asleep it would be instant divorce if not instant death
CAROL
We've had some good chats over the last few days, it seems it's a mixture of being worried about me, worried about the future if I develop complications and worried that if I had diabetes without knowing maybe she does too. We're making progress and everything seems a lot more positive. I'm not averse to playing song popShe is obviously very anxious so maybe there is an underlying cause totally unrelated to diabetes or cancer, let's hope so. It's good to hear that you are feeling better. If you ever want play a game or two of song pop on fb (good way to deal with stress)
This really tickled me, I can imagine poking her with a lancet "ooh look love you've been bitten by a mozzy, well we might as well test your BG now eh?"Wait till she's sleeping check her sugar levels then u will know one way or another is she has diabetes. Sorry but this is something I would do x
Couldn't agree more!!I think if someone jabbed me for a blood test when i was asleep it would be instant divorce if not instant death
CAROL
She'd be more likely to see it as an act of aggression and launch counter measuresShe might perceive it as a lack of trust?
We use cookies and similar technologies for the following purposes:
Do you accept cookies and these technologies?
We use cookies and similar technologies for the following purposes:
Do you accept cookies and these technologies?