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I'm sorry if it sounded uninformed, but this is what I read in my diabetes handbook after I left the hospital. My intentions were absolutely NOT scaring anyone - who would want that? I just wanted to help.
I'm sorry if it sounded uninformed, but this is what I read in my diabetes handbook after I left the hospital. My intentions were absolutely NOT scaring anyone - who would want that? I just wanted to help.Where did you get this information from ?? Ok so there is a small risk of your child getting type 1 if you have it - however the chances are more like 10% not 50%. Please check your info carefully before suggesting this as it sounds like a scaremongering fact and to be honest when I was pregnant thinking that my child might inherit this illness was the last thing on my mind, head awash with hormones, panic etc. I certainly didn't think about losing anything by having my child, I was gaining something more valuable by having a child. I have friends who have struggled and miscarried many times, so realising how others had struggled made me realise how precious and fortunate we were.
Every child is a miracle and this is exactly how I saw my child, once i'd got my head round it I just got on with it, it is a decision that stays with you for life whatever you decide but realising from all sides and taking an intuitive decision about what is right for you is more important - not to scare someone with ill quoted facts.
I will look for the handbook and upload a picture when I get home. As far as I remember, it was a local doctor from my country that published it. I don't think there is a large number of patients outside my city that get access to it.If this is what the NHS are sending out then that's terrible. That would put off alot of women wanting to conceive, I really didn't think about this when I was pregnant, in fact it was the last thing on my mind.
Do you know who published this handbook ?
If the mother is type 1 diabetic, there is a 1-4% chance the child will be type 1. If the father is type 1 diabetic there is a 4-8% chance the child will have type 1 diabetes. This is the same for each child you have, first child, second child, third child, the chance with each pregnancy is the same.
Delighted to hear it, congratulations.we have decided to carry on with the pregnancy I have cancelled my termination appointment and I have a scan next Wednesday
I had my son when I was 24 and diabetic for 5 years and it was fine he's now 35 years old and no probs so if you want to have your baby don't worry your doc will look after you every thing happens for a reason I have found good luckHi @Kerry-Michelle. This is an enormous decision and one that only you can make.
Given your doubts maybe you should seek advice from your parents or someone else that you trust.
I was younger than you...only 19 in fact when I had my daughter...under very similar circumstances...the pill failed me...and I couldn't bring myself to go through with an abortion so I went ahead and had my daughter who is now just slightly younger than you at nearly 22. Would I change anything? Absolutely not...she's my world. But that doesn't mean it's been easy...my partner and I split when she was 2 and I've spent much of the last 20 years raising her on my own on very little money and with very little support from her dad...I've missed out on numerous opportunities in terms of careers...university etc as well as watching my friends
enjoying holidays...fancy cars...clothes etc. Is your relationship strong enough to last the distance? Are you working...studying? Are you prepared to make these kind of sacrifices?
On the flip side...to give a balanced view...I am now 40 and despite the hardships of the last 20 years...I've worked hard and have only 3 years left on my mortgage...my daughter and I now enjoy a comfortable(ish) lifestyle and are really close...it's proof that it can be done with a little grit and determination.
I can understand your fears in terms of your health and this really should be a big consideration...carrying a baby puts a huge strain on the body...more so as a diabetic...I was diagnosed when my daughter was 6 so I have no experience of diabetes and pregnancy but I'm sure there are people here who can advise on this or maybe you could speak with your diabetes team in regards to this if you want to consider that option.
Maybe most importantly you and your partner need to be in complete agreement in whatever you decide so not to cause any resentment between you but please remember also that ultimately it's your body...it's your health and it will be you left holding the baby if anything goes wrong.
If your relationship is strong...you will still be together in a few years time and when the time is right...your BG is under control and you're both ready to embrace the challenges of parenthood you can give it another go.
I wish you both the very best in whatever you decide. X
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