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<blockquote data-quote="JoKalsbeek" data-source="post: 2257701" data-attributes="member: 401801"><p>Some do. I tended to shout it from the rooftops myself. I wanted to try the whole low carb thing, but I also knew my inlaws especially would keep trying to shove cake, cookies, pasties and the like down my throat. With cowmilk being a reumatism issue, I already knew I didn't have the backbone to keep telling them no: every week I saw them I was in pain for about 2 days afterwards with a flare, because for some reason they just kept pushing stuff on me I couldn't eat without paying for it later. I know they mean well, it was loving, but oooooh.... Years of pain. And I didn't want to dissapoint them because they meant well, so i kept eating what was put in front of me. (And often cried on the way home in frustration at my own spinelessness. But I love them and they love me and that makes it hard.) And I knew that while I could deal with pain, I didn't want to deal with diabetic complications. Reumatism was one thing, but losing legs, kidneyfunction, my heart damaged...? No. So I made a point of it to let everyone and their granny know I was a diabetic on a special diet. My side of the family's been on some diet or other all their lives so they would've not given me too hard of a time with it, but my inlaws... Now there's always a bag of walnuts in the vicinity so I can join them. (Because I MUST eat. I'm fine with fasting, but whatever... It makes them happy, and it doesn't harm me.) On top of that, when you make a lifestyle change, it's easier if you don't have to carry the burden alone. My husband has a really fast metabolism, can eat whatever he wants, and he does... At work, where he also keeps his candy. Or in the morning, when I'm sticking with my tea, he'll have his bread with chocolate sprinkles. But in the evening he eats the same thing I do, I don't have to cook two meals or make something that smells good that I can't have. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> We only go to restaurants where I have options too, but really... If I hadn't have had his support throughout all this, I think I might've been on insulin for a few years now. So if there are people you often go out with, say, a sister-in-law or a friend etc, people who'll you have lunch with and the like, make it easier on yourself if you think they won't give you a hard time for wanting to fix your health, (as some people can give you a lot of grief, I know...). If you think they'll give you a hard time, tell them you are trying a new diet for weight loss or something... No need to mention diabetes is if makes you that uncomfortable. But who knows, they might be struggling with the same thing, or know someone who does. You might end up being a fount of knowledge for them.</p><p></p><p>But really... There is no shame in this, though "public knowledge" seems to have a different opinion. You have a metabolic, genetic condition. You didn't know you couldn't process carbs properly, and conventional wisdom tells people to up the carbs and drop the fat, rather than the other way around... Which is exactly wrong for people like us. Try and let go of the whole blaming yourself thing, if you can. And just take up the low carb lifestyle to kick diabetes in the ***. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p><p>Jo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JoKalsbeek, post: 2257701, member: 401801"] Some do. I tended to shout it from the rooftops myself. I wanted to try the whole low carb thing, but I also knew my inlaws especially would keep trying to shove cake, cookies, pasties and the like down my throat. With cowmilk being a reumatism issue, I already knew I didn't have the backbone to keep telling them no: every week I saw them I was in pain for about 2 days afterwards with a flare, because for some reason they just kept pushing stuff on me I couldn't eat without paying for it later. I know they mean well, it was loving, but oooooh.... Years of pain. And I didn't want to dissapoint them because they meant well, so i kept eating what was put in front of me. (And often cried on the way home in frustration at my own spinelessness. But I love them and they love me and that makes it hard.) And I knew that while I could deal with pain, I didn't want to deal with diabetic complications. Reumatism was one thing, but losing legs, kidneyfunction, my heart damaged...? No. So I made a point of it to let everyone and their granny know I was a diabetic on a special diet. My side of the family's been on some diet or other all their lives so they would've not given me too hard of a time with it, but my inlaws... Now there's always a bag of walnuts in the vicinity so I can join them. (Because I MUST eat. I'm fine with fasting, but whatever... It makes them happy, and it doesn't harm me.) On top of that, when you make a lifestyle change, it's easier if you don't have to carry the burden alone. My husband has a really fast metabolism, can eat whatever he wants, and he does... At work, where he also keeps his candy. Or in the morning, when I'm sticking with my tea, he'll have his bread with chocolate sprinkles. But in the evening he eats the same thing I do, I don't have to cook two meals or make something that smells good that I can't have. ;) We only go to restaurants where I have options too, but really... If I hadn't have had his support throughout all this, I think I might've been on insulin for a few years now. So if there are people you often go out with, say, a sister-in-law or a friend etc, people who'll you have lunch with and the like, make it easier on yourself if you think they won't give you a hard time for wanting to fix your health, (as some people can give you a lot of grief, I know...). If you think they'll give you a hard time, tell them you are trying a new diet for weight loss or something... No need to mention diabetes is if makes you that uncomfortable. But who knows, they might be struggling with the same thing, or know someone who does. You might end up being a fount of knowledge for them. But really... There is no shame in this, though "public knowledge" seems to have a different opinion. You have a metabolic, genetic condition. You didn't know you couldn't process carbs properly, and conventional wisdom tells people to up the carbs and drop the fat, rather than the other way around... Which is exactly wrong for people like us. Try and let go of the whole blaming yourself thing, if you can. And just take up the low carb lifestyle to kick diabetes in the ***. ;) Good luck! Jo [/QUOTE]
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