Hello Rox000 and welcome to the forum. I am T2 and not long from diagnosis so I cannot give you any advice at all but I want to assure you that being a part of this forum might just be one of the best things you can do for yourself as a parent and for your daughter. The information and the support given by other members in a similar situation to yours will make a challenging condition much easier. If you are as yet not aware, there is a sub section for parents of those with children/family members further down the forum list and of course there is the Type 1 Diabetes Forum.
To be told to 'chill' when the health of your child is always a parent's first priority is a tad unhelpful, in my opinion but I will leave the question of testing to those members who are far more knowledgeable about it than I am to guide you. Best wishes.