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Newly diagnosed partner.

Primula

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Hi. Your posts are very informative and helpful. My partner was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes a few weeks ago and we are trying hard to follow a low carbohydrate diet. I have noticed that he can become very aggressive and nasty verbally, as well as deeply negative and emotional, especially whilst eating a meal. This is accompanied by a drowsiness, almost like he is mild to moderately drunk. He dismisses my observations, but from what I have read could this be related to his Diabetes?? At present he is not medicated with anything and has to engage in a few tests and monitoring appointments, but nothing seems to be being done regarding closely monitoring his blood sugar levels etc... Would you recommend this as something he should be doing himself? I am finding it really hard to manage his Jekyl and Hyde moments. Have you any suggestions or tips please. A troubled and concerned partner. Many thanks in advance.
 
I am going to tag @daisy1 to give you some basic advice @Primula.

Your partner does need a blood testing kit as he will need to see which foods raise his levels and which are suitable for him.
If blood sugars are high then it does alter people's moods but so do low ones so you are never going to know what is going on without monitoring.
There is a cheap meter that people recommend, A codefree one and others will know where to get these and the pricing for the test strips.
Have a good read around the forum and come back with any questions that you may have.
 
@Primula

Hello Primula and welcome to the forum Here is the information, mentioned above, which we give to new members and I hope this will help you to help your partner. This includes a link to the Low Carb Program. Ask as many questions as you want and someone will be along to answer them.


BASIC INFORMATION FOR NEWLY DIAGNOSED DIABETICS

Diabetes is the general term to describe people who have blood that is sweeter than normal. A number of different types of diabetes exist.

A diagnosis of diabetes tends to be a big shock for most of us. It’s far from the end of the world though and on this forum you’ll find over 150,000 people who are demonstrating this.

On the forum we have found that with the number of new people being diagnosed with diabetes each day, sometimes the NHS is not being able to give all the advice it would perhaps like to deliver - particularly with regards to people with type 2 diabetes.

The role of carbohydrate

Carbohydrates are a factor in diabetes because they ultimately break down into sugar (glucose) within our blood. We then need enough insulin to either convert the blood sugar into energy for our body, or to store the blood sugar as body fat.

If the amount of carbohydrate we take in is more than our body’s own (or injected) insulin can cope with, then our blood sugar will rise.

The bad news

Research indicates that raised blood sugar levels over a period of years can lead to organ damage, commonly referred to as diabetic complications.

The good news

People on the forum here have shown that there is plenty of opportunity to keep blood sugar levels from going too high. It’s a daily task but it’s within our reach and it’s well worth the effort.

Controlling your carbs

The info below is primarily aimed at people with type 2 diabetes, however, it may also be of benefit for other types of diabetes as well.
There are two approaches to controlling your carbs:

  • Reduce your carbohydrate intake
  • Choose ‘better’ carbohydrates

Reduce your carbohydrates

A large number of people on this forum have chosen to reduce the amount of carbohydrates they eat as they have found this to be an effective way of improving (lowering) their blood sugar levels.

The carbohydrates which tend to have the most pronounced effect on blood sugar levels tend to be starchy carbohydrates such as rice, pasta, bread, potatoes and similar root vegetables, flour based products (pastry, cakes, biscuits, battered food etc) and certain fruits.

Choosing better carbohydrates

Another option is to replace ‘white carbohydrates’ (such as white bread, white rice, white flour etc) with whole grain varieties. The idea behind having whole grain varieties is that the carbohydrates get broken down slower than the white varieties –and these are said to have a lower glycaemic index.
http://www.diabetes.co.uk/food/diabetes-and-whole-grains.html

The low glycaemic index diet is often favoured by healthcare professionals but some people with diabetes find that low GI does not help their blood sugar enough and may wish to cut out these foods altogether.

Read more on carbohydrates and diabetes

LOW CARB PROGRAM:
http://www.diabetes.co.uk/low carb program


Eating what works for you

Different people respond differently to different types of food. What works for one person may not work so well for another. The best way to see which foods are working for you is to test your blood sugar with a glucose meter.

To be able to see what effect a particular type of food or meal has on your blood sugar is to do a test before the meal and then test after the meal. A test 2 hours after the meal gives a good idea of how your body has reacted to the meal.

The blood sugar ranges recommended by NICE are as follows:

Blood glucose ranges for type 2 diabetes
  • Before meals: 4 to 7 mmol/l
  • 2 hours after meals: under 8.5 mmol/l
Blood glucose ranges for type 1 diabetes (adults)
  • Before meals: 4 to 7 mmol/l
  • 2 hours after meals: under 9 mmol/l
Blood glucose ranges for type 1 diabetes (children)
  • Before meals: 4 to 8 mmol/l
  • 2 hours after meals: under 10 mmol/l
However, those that are able to, may wish to keep blood sugar levels below the NICE after meal targets.

Access to blood glucose test strips

The NICE guidelines suggest that people newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes should be offered:

  • structured education to every person and/or their carer at and around the time of diagnosis, with annual reinforcement and review
  • self-monitoring of plasma glucose to a person newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes only as an integral part of his or her self-management education

Therefore both structured education and self-monitoring of blood glucose should be offered to people with type 2 diabetes. Read more on getting access to bloodglucose testing supplies.

You may also be interested to read questions to ask at a diabetic clinic

Note: This post has been edited from Sue/Ken's post to include up to date information.
 
Hi and welcome. Yes, do get hold of a meter and test 2 hours after some typical meals; the aim is to be below around 8.5 mmol. I suspect your partner is a bit depressed as the thought of diabetes is scary at first until you realise that it can be controlled very well. Do read Daisy's post about diet as this is key and you are already onto that. If necessary some tablets may be started such as Metformin. These help to some extent to reduce blood sugar. If the meter shows readings above the teens then this can have some effect on behaviour and as this is reduced any problems will fade. If you see readings regularly into the 20s then do see the GP again fairly soon
 
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