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<blockquote data-quote="SophiaW" data-source="post: 210297" data-attributes="member: 13451"><p>I'm so sorry your son is having such a hard time of this Vikki, I can imagine how upsetting it is for you to see him struggling with it. If your diabetes team aren't being helpful with the emotional side please see your GP and discuss with him/her. There could be someone else he can be referred to for help other than your diabetes team. I do think what's making it all the more difficult for him at this time is that 3 years old is a difficult age for any little person, even without diabetes thrown into the mix. But I think this is a delicate age and you want to handle it correctly. If you're getting upset and shouting I think you need someone to talk with too, like already suggested perhaps a support group of other parents who understand what it's like. Your son will benefit from seeing other children with diabetes doing injections or putting numbers into pumps. Your diabetes team should be able to put you in touch with a group like this. I don't believe holding him down is helping anyone and although it might be your only option now there must be another way of getting the set changes done without having to do this. It must be upsetting for both you and your son.</p><p></p><p>Have you tried a reward sticker chart? Does your son have an interest that could become a good motivator for him? Perhaps the promise of a favorite activity like swimming, a digger DVD, reading a favorite book with you or whatever it is that would motivate him. I found with my kids when they were younger that we'd do the reward chart to quickly and easily earn free rewards, like reading a favorite book together but once they'd achieved say ten of those easy rewards then they'd earn a bonus or jackpot reward of having a day out swimming or to their favorite beach. You want easy rewards to earn along the way to keep the motivation going whilst they're aiming for the big prize. For a three year old you want those free rewards to be earned nearly on a daily basis, they need fairly quick and instant reward at that age otherwise they can quickly lose interest and it's veiwed by them as being non-rewarding.</p><p></p><p>Does he do any of the finger prick testing himself or do you do it for him? If he's not doing it himself you could perhaps try teaching him to do it for himself. It might make him feel a little more in control of the situation if he can do some of the tasks for himself. Have you ever done a finger prick test on yourself infront of him? If he sees someone else doing it without any fuss he may find that reassuring. You could compare numbers and if he's able to do a test himself perhaps he can do a test on you. Make sure you use a new lancet for hygiene etc.</p><p></p><p>For the set changes Jen suggested using an ice cube. You may also want to try using Emla cream to numb the area first. If it is hurting him I don't blame him for not wanting the set change done. Otherwise if you believe the set changes are hurting perhaps you can try some different types of cannulas to see if a different type is more comfortable for him. Doing the set change at night when he's a sleep if it doesn't wake him is a good idea which Jen suggested.</p><p></p><p>When you need to talk to your son make sure you choose a time and place where there are no distractions for him and he is calm and relaxed. We found Jess' best place for chatting was whilst she was in the bath. Have the TV turned off, toys packed away etc. Some children do find it easier to talk and listen when they have a favorite toy in their hands. Talking about diabetes may be easier if you have a book about diabetes to look through together. I bought Jess a book called The Bravest Girl in School. It's probably aimed at an older age group than your son so look around as there is probably something more suitable for your son's age. The book although not too indepth about diabetes was a good tool for us to read through together and was used as a prompt to get my daughter talking to me whilst we shared to book together. Rather than me talking first we read the book and that prompted her to ask questions and say things throughout the story, I found myself doing less talking and simply answering questions or responding to what she had said. The conversation was very much driven by her rather than by me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SophiaW, post: 210297, member: 13451"] I'm so sorry your son is having such a hard time of this Vikki, I can imagine how upsetting it is for you to see him struggling with it. If your diabetes team aren't being helpful with the emotional side please see your GP and discuss with him/her. There could be someone else he can be referred to for help other than your diabetes team. I do think what's making it all the more difficult for him at this time is that 3 years old is a difficult age for any little person, even without diabetes thrown into the mix. But I think this is a delicate age and you want to handle it correctly. If you're getting upset and shouting I think you need someone to talk with too, like already suggested perhaps a support group of other parents who understand what it's like. Your son will benefit from seeing other children with diabetes doing injections or putting numbers into pumps. Your diabetes team should be able to put you in touch with a group like this. I don't believe holding him down is helping anyone and although it might be your only option now there must be another way of getting the set changes done without having to do this. It must be upsetting for both you and your son. Have you tried a reward sticker chart? Does your son have an interest that could become a good motivator for him? Perhaps the promise of a favorite activity like swimming, a digger DVD, reading a favorite book with you or whatever it is that would motivate him. I found with my kids when they were younger that we'd do the reward chart to quickly and easily earn free rewards, like reading a favorite book together but once they'd achieved say ten of those easy rewards then they'd earn a bonus or jackpot reward of having a day out swimming or to their favorite beach. You want easy rewards to earn along the way to keep the motivation going whilst they're aiming for the big prize. For a three year old you want those free rewards to be earned nearly on a daily basis, they need fairly quick and instant reward at that age otherwise they can quickly lose interest and it's veiwed by them as being non-rewarding. Does he do any of the finger prick testing himself or do you do it for him? If he's not doing it himself you could perhaps try teaching him to do it for himself. It might make him feel a little more in control of the situation if he can do some of the tasks for himself. Have you ever done a finger prick test on yourself infront of him? If he sees someone else doing it without any fuss he may find that reassuring. You could compare numbers and if he's able to do a test himself perhaps he can do a test on you. Make sure you use a new lancet for hygiene etc. For the set changes Jen suggested using an ice cube. You may also want to try using Emla cream to numb the area first. If it is hurting him I don't blame him for not wanting the set change done. Otherwise if you believe the set changes are hurting perhaps you can try some different types of cannulas to see if a different type is more comfortable for him. Doing the set change at night when he's a sleep if it doesn't wake him is a good idea which Jen suggested. When you need to talk to your son make sure you choose a time and place where there are no distractions for him and he is calm and relaxed. We found Jess' best place for chatting was whilst she was in the bath. Have the TV turned off, toys packed away etc. Some children do find it easier to talk and listen when they have a favorite toy in their hands. Talking about diabetes may be easier if you have a book about diabetes to look through together. I bought Jess a book called The Bravest Girl in School. It's probably aimed at an older age group than your son so look around as there is probably something more suitable for your son's age. The book although not too indepth about diabetes was a good tool for us to read through together and was used as a prompt to get my daughter talking to me whilst we shared to book together. Rather than me talking first we read the book and that prompted her to ask questions and say things throughout the story, I found myself doing less talking and simply answering questions or responding to what she had said. The conversation was very much driven by her rather than by me. [/QUOTE]
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