Parents and Diabetes

I'm 16 and was diagnosed with type1 diabetes in November 2008, and althouth most of the time I will happily inject, sometimes I just feel really angry that i've been given this and no-one else in my family has it.

I met up a peadiatrition when my doctor had suggested I did have diabetes and he insisted I went to hospital to confirm I did have the disease with further tests - Hb1ac, for example. Instead of my Dad coming into the hosptal with me, he dropped me off and simply went home to watch TV or whatever.

When we have dinner, they do not tell me that they are about to dish it up, they just expect me to be telepathic and know that it's about to come and expect e to have tested my blood and injected. At this point get very anrgy because I have asked them so many times and told them that such a simple thing like this makes life for me so much easier, and sometimes I will refuse to eat the dinner. They then make snide remarks like i'm studid and pathetic for caring.

My Dad seems to think that becuase I have had it for a whole 3 months that I am totally used to the injections and that life is exactly the same as it was before.

When I was diagnosed, I researched massive amounts about diabetes, yet my parents have looked at nothing - not even the book that my Grandad baught for them to read; instead, I read it.

I've been to the doctors as I have been really upset over the diabetes, and it does not help that I do not receieve any support from my family. The doctor suggested a refferal to a pshycologist which I refused immediately because I find it far too hard to talk about my problems and I do psychology in college and know the ways they will delve into my mind. The only person that I can count on for understanding is my boyfriend. My friends often come out with the same remark: 'ohh, I suppose your used to it now.'

Is there any way I get my parents to wake up and realise how upset I really am and how insupportive of my diabetes they really are. Crying in front of them about it, or screaming does not seem to make them care -they just say abuse to me. It's getting to the point where I want to see if foster care is avaliable.
Thank you.

Thanks for the adivce.
We had an okay relationship. It's not the best, but there were people who had much worse relationships.
I find it hard to talk about my problems and I know I will be unable to tell them how I feel without crying and getting angry about the whole situation, because they are ignorant and probably wouldn't listen anyway.
As for the psycholgist, there is a 6 month wait for it, and by that point, things may have settled down.
I'm feeling totally helpless and now I have started developing ketones in the morning, yet I have normal blood sugar levels. It's another frustration as there is no explanation for it, apart from the fact that I am not on the overnight injection (the fourth one), yet my consultant will not give me it until my blood sugar levels are into the ten's when i wake up regularly.
This whole situation is so messed up, I just want to escape it.

Thank you Amanda.
I have the diabetes under control - when diangosed by Hba1c was 14.6, it is now 6.1. It's just the fact that my parents are so unsupportive and I cannot understand why they would not be supportive of me. I feel that I am no longer wanted in my house and that I am damaged goods; kind of like I am a problem on their hands that they do not need and do not want to acknowledge.
I just want to feel happy again.

Thank you
I don't know how to get them to realise though. I've invited them to meet my speicailist, yet they insisted they couldn't get time off work which is a ridiculous statement when they get flexi-time at work and my parents regularly go into work early to leave early. I've given them books and tried talking to them, yet they ignore it.
I think the only way for them to understand is to make them do what I do - make them test their blood before they eat and pretend to inject using just the needle. I know they wouldn't agree to that, but it would be perfect for making them realise exactly what I have to do and what an inconvenince diabetes is.

I do health and social care AS level, and as a part of my coursework component had to study someone with an illness, and I chose to do myself. My teacher said she was touched and that it gave her lots of information on diabetes and the profound effects of it. She suggested that I show them it, yet I feel like such an idiot for making a fuss. There are people so much worse off than me and that makes me angry that I am still upset when there are so many people worse off than me.

I like the letter idea, but I would be suprised if they even bothered to read it. It's so hard to live in a house when they do not acknowledge that I even have diabetes. I usually avoid them now as I cannot stand another argument concerning diabetes and go straight to my bedroom when I get in from college.
I'll try and write a letter and see what happens.
Thank you for your adivce. I will let you know how I get on.

Thanks a lot for the replies. Very helpful and supportive.
I am not sure about looking for a group. I know 2 other type1 diabetics...neither of them have good control over their diabetes, and so I do not particularly want to seek help from them, as I would like to have continual control over the whole situation.
I figured that was why I was getting the ketones. My consultant said to keep and touch and let him know if they reach 0.6 or above. I'm not too bothered, I just wanted a conclusive answer as to why I am getting them
Thank you a lot.
I made up with my parents yesterday. Relentlessly started talking to them again, however, I want to get this settled once and for all. I am going to show them the coursework which I have done which highlights the emotional, social, pshycological, physical and intellectual impacts that diabetes has on me. Fingers crossed it will work.
I'll let you know.