Hi lilly, i am a type 1 and a very bad diabetic probably worse than your husband. What your doing it great and my loved ones have also tried with me to get me to take care of myself better, but for me i feel its my diabetes, i live with it not them, if i dont do insulin or test my sugars thats my choice! Dont get me wrong i know that is a really bad way of thinking just trying to explain why your husband might be the way he is. Nothing against you or anyone else its a psychological thing that there isnt really any help available for. With me my diabetic team know i like gadgets so if they want me to test my sugars they give me a new metre to try that way i play about with it so they get some readings from me. That may not work for your husband but my point is try and find little tricks like that, that will make your husband do a little more and one day he might come to terms and accept his diabetes and start looking after himself better. I have been diabetic for 15years now and i still cant accept it but i am a whole lot better than i used to be so some progress has been made just very slowly lol. I hope this helps a bit and gives a little more insight. Sometimes living with a diabetic is harder than having the diabetes yourself so keep up the great work xx
Hi Lillipad62, I’m very new to this site, so new I haven't even had time to introduce myself. I have been a T2D for approx 10 to 15 years and in that time not really understood the seriousness of the disease. Doctors never telling me of the consequences, just saying stick to a sugar free diet and you will be alright and me not being much of a book worm not bothering to even read the pamphlets that are about. Then one day a pharmacist chatted with me showing concern and told me about this site and since joining I intend to search all the nooks and crannies to keep me on track. I can understand your frustration of your efforts to help and it falling on deaf ears. Perhaps if you were to share your concerns with your friends or his work mates to nudge him in the right direction. I found it weird that it took a complete stranger (“Pharmacist”) to give me a wake up call. It is a very difficult situation to be in and wish you luck with your efforts.
Surely, ultimately, the responsibility lies with the poor anxious partner who will one day be the carer for a person in a wheelchair, or bed-bound with amputated limbs... even blind and helpless? Those things are not threats invented to try to stop diabetics from eating pizza and drinking beer, they are a sad reality... For me, it has to be the single most selfish thing a diabetic can do... I know we are supportive on the forum, and we aren't here to stand in judgement on anyone in particular, but the anxiety is all about the future and what it holds, isn't it, not what we're eating today. or tomorrow... If you are aware of the inability to get to grips with it all the best thing would be therapy, surely... it's not just one life ruined we're talking about here, it impacts on everyone in your life....We hear this so often on this group about people who refuse to manage their diabetes will not change their ways and the worry it is for their partners. It must be difficult to see someone being so irresponsible about their health. At the end of the day it his diabetes and his responsibility to manage it not yours he is a grown up who needs to man up. Maybe one day he will get a wake up call that makes him see he must change what he is doing
Hi, Roybhamuk... welcome... It's like fog lifting, isn't it?Hi Lillipad62, I’m very new to this site, so new I haven't even had time to introduce myself. I have been a T2D for approx 10 to 15 years and in that time not really understood the seriousness of the disease. Doctors never telling me of the consequences, just saying stick to a sugar free diet and you will be alright and me not being much of a book worm not bothering to even read the pamphlets that are about. Then one day a pharmacist chatted with me showing concern and told me about this site and since joining I intend to search all the nooks and crannies to keep me on track. I can understand your frustration of your efforts to help and it falling on deaf ears. Perhaps if you were to share your concerns with your friends or his work mates to nudge him in the right direction. I found it weird that it took a complete stranger (“Pharmacist”) to give me a wake up call. It is a very difficult situation to be in and wish you luck with your efforts.
Well done Lilypad... It must be so hard for you... you seem strong though, and you have come to the right place for support and information...Hi Thankyou for your insight. I do understand its not always an easy thing to live with. I just love him dearly and don't want to suffer the consequences in a few years... I'm thinking of his little boy. I don't want my partner missing out on him growing up because he is ill.
I do like the gadget idea! He loves gadgets too so we'll look into that - Thank you.
Anyway I'm not going to give up!
Lilly
Well i have just tried the freestyle libre and it is fantastic i was non stop testing my sugars with it as you only have to scan but now my sensor has ran out and cant afford to buy anymore but i bet he would love it too. It does loads of stuff to i was playing around with it for weeks and still love it as it is also a normal blood tester as well. Maybe you should get your husband to try it xxHi Thankyou for your insight. I do understand its not always an easy thing to live with. I just love him dearly and don't want to suffer the consequences in a few years... I'm thinking of his little boy. I don't want my partner missing out on him growing up because he is ill.
I do like the gadget idea! He loves gadgets too so we'll look into that - Thank you.
Anyway I'm not going to give up!
Lilly
Surely, ultimately, the responsibility lies with the poor anxious partner who will one day be the carer for a person in a wheelchair, or bed-bound with amputated limbs... even blind and helpless? Those things are not threats invented to try to stop diabetics from eating pizza and drinking beer, they are a sad reality... For me, it has to be the single most selfish thing a diabetic can do... I know we are supportive on the forum, and we aren't here to stand in judgement on anyone in particular, but the anxiety is all about the future and what it holds, isn't it, not what we're eating today. or tomorrow... If you are aware of the inability to get to grips with it all the best thing would be therapy, surely... it's not just one life ruined we're talking about here, it impacts on everyone in your life....
Hi all. I hope I'm typing in the right place. I'd just like some advice on how to deal with my partners diabetes 2. He has had it for a few years now. He doesn't seem to take it seriously (i think hes in denile ) and says he forgets to take his metformin unless I remind him (I am not always around) .
His diet is terrible and he won't entertain eating any fruit, vegetables, eggs or fish. He's is carb hell! I try different foods to help him with hidden veg but he knows it's in there.
I've suffer with anxiety. And as a result of worry for him, have turned into a control freak with what my toddler eats because I can't seem to help my partner. I don't want my son eating too many sweet goods. My partner's parents are both diabetic too. I can't talk to them because i know they would just say I'm over reacting.
He's tryed talking to a dietitian but that doesn't seem to have worked out. Any suggestions? Im finding it upsetting and I feel like I'm at my wits end! we're both in our early thirties and I don't want to lose my partner early on in life!
Sorry to ramble on. Thank you for reading my post
Lilly
That would be a bit of bleak diet, to be fair! A lot of people seem to control type 2 pretty well with a lower carb diet, by increasing fat to replace the calories being removed. Instead of eggs and fish, is a nice fatty steak and fewer carbs an option for dinner? And lentils/peas or potatoes are carby, but a lot better than pasta or rice at least. Anyhow, it might be helpful to change tactics slightly, and focus more on reducing the carbs a bit while still making a savory and satisfying meal.His diet is terrible and he won't entertain eating any fruit, vegetables, eggs or fish. He's is carb hell! I try different foods to help him with hidden veg but he knows it's in there.
Are you sure fruit sugar is not good? My dietecian advised to take some fruit (like half banana, or 1 apple or 10 grapes or 3 dates) with every meal ! Please guide.Fruit is not really a good choice for type 2 diabetics. Only berries in smaller amounts are good fruit sugar seems to be bad for the liver can store it without any effort and it spikes much more rapid than even White sugar
Hi tsalman .... fruit is very high in fructose, which is not good for you.... berries, in reasonable quantities are much better... blueberries, raspberries, blackberries, strawberries for instance... I have them with full fat Greek or goat's yoghurt, kefir or in a smoothie.... sometimes with cream as a pudding, or a snack... good luck....Are you sure fruit sugar is not good? My dietecian advised to take some fruit (like half banana, or 1 apple or 10 grapes or 3 dates) with every meal ! Please guide.
Freema sorry but that's a sweeping statement. Everyone has a different response to food including sugar. Some diabetics can tolerate a little fruit. Fructose the sugar in fruit is low GI and raises blood sugar slowly.Fruit is not really a good choice for type 2 diabetics. Only berries in smaller amounts are good fruit sugar seems to be bad for the liver can store it without any effort and it spikes much more rapid than even White sugar
Berries are still the best... or a little white melon....Freema sorry but that's a sweeping statement. Everyone has a different response to food including sugar. Some diabetics can tolerate a little fruit. Fructose the sugar in fruit is low GI and raises blood sugar slowly.
From Google -
As expected, glucose itself has a high value because it is rapidly absorbed into the blood stream; its GI or glycemic load per gram is 100. In contrast, the glycemicload per gram fructose is only 19, while that of table sugar is 65 – midway between its component parts glucose and fructose.
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