A lot of the "advice" we get doesn't take into account that we are all individuals with differing body shapes and differing physical use of nutrition. We have no control over where we store our fat or where we lose it from, so constant criticism about body shape is unwarranted and unhelpful. The same applies with our blood glucose responses to diet and lifestyle. We can only do our best, and constant comparisons with others or "goals" is unhelpful and can be demoralising. As for cholesterol, I recommend reading "The Great Cholesterol Con" for greater understanding - written by a doctor, and should be read by all doctors. Menopause is a b****h and skews everything. The aim is survival, and we all survive much better without constant criticism, comparisons and "ought to's" Like you, I have a good BMI and carry weight around my waist and belly. It isn't a fault, it isn't anything we've done or not done, it's a physical fact we were born with, much the same as eye and hair colour. We have to live with what our genes have supplied.