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Ranting....Is there a special place?

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Hi guys,

Is there a special place to go, where you can rant & rave and throw virtual things? Quick! before I kill the special diabetic in my life......grrrrrrrr!

Julia
 
No, then?

Well, I guess if he carries on he'll do for himself and I won't have to. My diabetic is sulking upstairs in bed because I said (very tactfully) that the Kingsize Mars bar was not a good idea. I know this is all new and probably very shocking to him and it's going to take some getting used to. He has now refused to eat anything, so his low-carb hard work since his diagnosis 10 days ago has gone out the window and he will be anxious in the morning when his Bg test is haywire.

This has been a big upset because when he was diagnosed, my kids (2 early twenties, 2 late teens) decided they would have exactly the same diet at home as Dad and I do. There would be no hydrogenated fats in the house, and there aren't. He was very touched at their decision. So why did he go out and buy the Mars bar?

Also, I can't get him to read or research diabetes....it's head in the sand time. Oh, and I was ranty because he said he wouldn't have diabetes if it wasn't for me...so it's my fault.

Julia

Please shed some light someone, I need some help.
 
Hi Julia

It sometimes takes a little while for people to answer particularly if they are looking for advice for themselves.

It is a hard transition for people to make and he knows that the Kingsize Mars is not a good 'un but try not to come down too hard on him-just imagine a virtual custard pie slamming in his direction instead. :wink:

Some people can immediately shift into diabetes busting mode and never look back, for others it is a bit more difficult. He sounds like he is trying to do the right things, testing is important but it is equally important that he doesn't get in a frazzle about it.

This is a link to a site that one of our members put up yesterday, it really is very good.http://www.diabetesexplained.com/diabet ... ssues.html

Perhaps him indoors will have a read of it soon but for the time being I really wouldn't push him too much, just give him a little time to come to terms with this diagnosis. Having said that, don't let him play the blame game either, nobody knows for sure why we get it but once we have it, we can take steps to improve our overall health.

Let him sort himself out and you can come here and launch some virtual missiles instead
 
Sorry Julia,

you're in the perfect place for rant but I suspect there aren't many better halfs on here at the moment.

the rest of us (blokes) are shifting uncomfortably and staring at our feet. I suspect the male type 2 diabetic may be less receptive to advice, I'm afraid and I know I have spouted some utter tripe to all and sundry whilst refusing to come to grips with this condition.

It is not your fault, obviously and it's unlikely to be his either. It just is, I'm afraid.
 
Thanks guys, you've made me smile. Through my tears, but I am smiling. Stop looking at your feet now - oh, wait, no...you're supposed to examine them, aren't you?

I deal with all of his other health problems - he's disabled, with limited walking, sitting - actually everything is pretty much limited - and I do it, always, always, in good grace because he is my diabetic cripple and I'm not giving up on him after 28 years. But I also have health problems so it's not an easy job sometimes. There's a lot happening all at once in our lives - we have a fight on our hands with ATOS, and our landlord is being a numpty, and now this. It does feel like I'm coping alone with everything sometimes, but I know he needs to concentrate on the diabetes for a while, get his new life style in order, realise it's not so much of a biggie in the huge scheme of things.

I'm just learning how HUGE this forum is...thank goodness for the back browser button or I'd be lost. The info is just amazing!

Julia
 
Our entire info on feet was, and I quote "Never cut your toe nails" that was Nurse Dread :evil: . I got a funny look when I asked why not. The answer to that was "Just file them" well, yes, but why?

So then we get the full neuropathy explanation and I said he was already numb from failed Chemo-neucleosis surgery which destroyed spinal nerves, and he already gets slightly in-growing toe nails at times. Oh my gosh, she was outraged...and now he's going to see the Podiatrist every two weeks for a full pedicure - wish I was - I'm pleased that he is getting this care as it seems there are members who really need good care and are not getting it.

I think care should be standardised countrywide, not this postcode lottery diabetes care.

Julia
 
Of course its your faulMissus. Always is , isn't it? You do both have a grea deal o cope with don't you? I ope hings improve for you soon.

Was just wondering if the king-sized mars bar was he resul of the good work you have boh been doing? As we were saying on another hread recenly it can be very ucomfortable when your levels firs sart to fall. You can feel quite ill and cerainly very hungry. even if you are sill eaing well.

Maybe just a little of the Mars bar ?
 
DBsMissus said:
Oh, and I was ranty because he said he wouldn't have diabetes if it wasn't for me...so it's my fault.
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Hey Julia. If I said that to my wife who like you has been a star I would expect and deserve to have my bits ripped off and shoved down my throat.

It may take him a while (being male like me) but in the end he should hopefully realise how selfish it would be to make his wife and his family have to deal with all the s**t when it happened which it will if he eats Mars Bars.

Keep ranting by all means but maybe do it to him. Hit him where it hurts and tell him to man up and grow up.
 
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