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Dominoes

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Hi there I'm just wanting a bit of advice. I've just started dating a guy with type 1 diabetes.
He says he has trouble believing people in relationships as he don't trust them. Cause past partners have said they have no problem with him having diabetes but the minute he has an episode they don't want to know. I'm trying to reassure him that I'll be there for him the best I can, is he trying to push me away already?
I don't really understand an awful lot about diabetes so any advice would be appreciated. Will he be put off on the sex side of things cause I've read men can have erectile problems, is this always the case? I'm really fond of this guy and think he is me too but sometimes seems he's pushing mr away ??
 
Hi, Welcome :) the errectile thingy isn't a problem for most people i don't believe, he's probably just paranoid, maybe he's had some bad experiences, and in time I'm sure he will come to realise that you won't be one of them, sure diabetes is a pain and some work needs to be done but theres no reason this would prevent you having a perfectly normal relationship in every way, try to be patient would be my only advice, best of luck :)

maybe have a read up on the possible consequences of him having a hypo etc and let him know you have done this and are prepared to help him deal with it when/if it happens, this may re assure him
 
Hi Dominoes, welcome to the world of diabetes. I agree with Andy above, the more you can find out about T1 and the problems he might encounter and how you can help him, he will feel much more reassured that you understand and not frightened by his condition, it will also help you to recognise symptoms if they occur.

This is a good website to start and there is lots of help should you need it.

Good luck with the relationship, be patient and give him lots of encouragement to involve you in the management of his diabetes.

Marilyn
 
Mazzer said:
Hi Dominoes, welcome to the world of diabetes. I agree with Andy above, the more you can find out about T1 and the problems he might encounter and how you can help him, he will feel much more reassured that you understand and not frightened by his condition, it will also help you to recognise symptoms if they occur.

This is a good website to start and there is lots of help should you need it.

Good luck with the relationship, be patient and give him lots of encouragement to involve you in the management of his diabetes.

Marilyn
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Thank you both :) I've been trying to read up it's so confusing. What's hypo? Is that when he takes a bad turn? There is so much to learn about, but I really want to try :)
 
Dominoes said:
Thank you both :) I've been trying to read up it's so confusing. What's hypo? Is that when he takes a bad turn? There is so much to learn about, but I really want to try :)
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Hypoglycemia means low on sugar. To put a number on it people say that below 4 means you are hypo. In practical terms a person who is hypo can exhibit symptoms like headache, vagueness, shaking, behaving oddly or passing out cold.
 
learning it will mean a lot to him :) its like being drunk without having to pay for it which makes him a cheap date, its win win lol
 
Andy12345 said:
learning it will mean a lot to him :) its like being drunk without having to pay for it which makes him a cheap date, its win win lol
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And he gets the headache during and after
 
Hi Dominoes, you sound a really lovely person wanting to learn as much as you can to help your partner, I wish my husband was as interested my my Diabetes, he hasn't got a clue, nor is he interested in finding out. He is lovely in every other way but cannot handle illness, thats why I joined this Forum to connect with people that understand.

I think you are doing a grand job and your partner will soon realise what a gem of a partner he has.

Take care

Marilyn
 
Mazzer said:
Hi Dominoes, you sound a really lovely person wanting to learn as much as you can to help your partner, I wish my husband was as interested my my Diabetes, he hasn't got a clue, nor is he interested in finding out. He is lovely in every other way but cannot handle illness, thats why I joined this Forum to connect with people that understand.

I think you are doing a grand job and your partner will soon realise what a gem of a partner he has.

Take care

Marilyn
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If I am with him it's my job to make him happy and look after him. It's no biggy, I'm just wanting to learn about diabetes so I know what to expect ect ect. It's a brand new relationship so I owe him this at least. It's the least I can do for what he goes through :)
 
My husband was the same when we first got together. He ended up in hospital after we had been together only 4 weeks, and in all fairness, it bought us closer! He ended up in hospital for a month, and we saw each other every day, and bought us closer. I would say never be afraid to ask questions, as people are more ignorant of what they think they know rather than finding out the truth
 
Dominoes said:
Hi there I'm just wanting a bit of advice. I've just started dating a guy with type 1 diabetes.
He says he has trouble believing people in relationships as he don't trust them. Cause past partners have said they have no problem with him having diabetes but the minute he has an episode they don't want to know. I'm trying to reassure him that I'll be there for him the best I can, is he trying to push me away already?
I don't really understand an awful lot about diabetes so any advice would be appreciated. Will he be put off on the sex side of things cause I've read men can have erectile problems, is this always the case? I'm really fond of this guy and think he is me too but sometimes seems he's pushing mr away ??
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You sound just so wonderful x all the best
 
Many of us have these kinds of issues about relationships especially if the other is really serious but gets hurt. just know that be dedicated to proving him that you really dont have a problem with his diabetes so that in time he'll be able to adjust to you and everything will get better,. just have a little faith . :D
 
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