Hi, and welcome to the forum.
Your nurse sounds a disgrace to the profession, and no wonder you feel upset. I think we all feel like it's all just so confusing and upsetting when we first get diagnosed. Chin up, there's great help and support out there, even if it's not from your Diabetes Nurse. They seem to have little idea, in my opinion, of actually living with diabetes, although some are much nicer than the dragon you have met. :evil:
Re meters and strips - my Health Authority won't give them to me either, but I was lucky enough to get a free one from this forum, and I buy my strips straight from the company themselves as it's far cheaper than going to a chemist for them. E-bay is cheaper, but I have a problem about lining the pockets of those who are lucky enough to get their strips for free and sell them on e-bay. I know, some may be guiltless but that will be the minority.
I have heard folks on here say that if you ring a company they will give you a free meter, so that's worth trying.
I was told not to test, but didn't listen to that 'advice' and I'm so pleased I didn't. You need to test to be able to see what foods you can, and cannot eat. It gives you back the control of managing your diabetes yourself, and hopefully improving it. For instance, I can eat Burgen soya bread, but cannot eat an ordinary brown roll - it really raises my bg......everyone is different though, so testing is the only way to find out what's right for you, and you alone.
I have lost a lot of weight and improved my BG due to the low(er) carb diet that so many follow on here. I'm not a slave to it though, I admit, and do allow myself new boiled potatoes, Burgen bread, and other foodstuffs, though in much smaller portions.
I find also, that doing some kind of exercise after a meal really helps in lowering your glucose levels, your weight, and generally makes you feel better.
There are loads of great ideas and plenty of inspiration from others on here, so have a good look around, and take from the advice what suits you, as many of the diets are quite limited. Only you can decide what is the correct way forward for yourself, but by registering on this forum you have made a huge step.
By the way, I too have hypothyroidism, and I can't honestly say that it has made a huge difference in the way that I eat, but I also have other meds I take, which do make a difference.
So, good luck, and don't despair - in 6 months time you will hopefully be feeling much better about being able to control your condition. I wish you well. :thumbup: