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<blockquote data-quote="GraceK" data-source="post: 343909" data-attributes="member: 47233"><p>I'll be 60 next year and I don't mind being 60 at all. My hair is grey, I don't dye it and I don't try to make myself look younger than I am. My mind feels 17 and my body feels 60 and I'm well aware that my body is 60 years old so I don't push it to be anything other than what it is. Gravity has taken its toll, my feet are no longer pretty, I have toes that suddenly became crooked but I wear sandals in the summer because I do NOT care about my age, my deformities, my wrinkles, my grey hair offending anyone who is 'sensitive to the ravages of age'. </p><p></p><p>I've never fallen for the hype that tells us that 40 is the new 30, 60 the new 50 etc because I saw that very quickly as the political ploy it is - get us to think we're younger than we are and we may not notice those extra years the Government plonked on the baby boomers working life! Conspiracy theories? Yep I believe in a lot of them especially where social engineering is concerned and how we're all being guided to believe we can live forever if we can have a nip and tuck, dress 20 years younger than we are and possibly behave 30 years younger than we are.</p><p></p><p>Fifty has always been 50, 60 has ALWAYS been 60, it's just that we're encourage these days to pretend we're younger than we are. So what's wrong with accepting our age and neither being proud of nor ashamed of it?</p><p></p><p>I'm well aware my best years are gone, I used up all my energy on looking after my family, my parents and working to pay the mortgage. I still got older and sicker in the process and that's life. Now, I'm happy to be 60, I can refuse evenings out with people on the grounds that I need to be in bed by 9pm or I can't function the next day or that I simply don't like crowds, restaurants or shopping for the sake of it. I can nod off in my chair without worrying that I've wasted some time sleeping. I don't feel the need to fill my time being 'useful' or 'purposeful'. I can be me and to hell with what anyone thinks.</p><p></p><p>At first I was indignant but now I'm even more grateful for that 'invisibility cloak' that is bestowed upon menopausal women that allows us to blend into the background where we can think about all the things we never had time to think about when we were busy being young and where we can be ignored and not bothered by conversations and clap trap that no longer interests us. I'm free to NOT talk about shoes and handbags all day long just to fill in the gaps in conversation. I can engage in MEANINGFUL conversation or keep my mouth shut and feel perfectly OK about it. When you work in an office, the amount of shoe, handbag and fascinator that substitutes for meaningful conversation never ceases to amaze me, and I can honestly say I really can't abide the 'girlie' conversations that take place. I never was part of them at 17 because I found them boring and I'm not suddenly going to turn into a 'girlie' at 60 years of age because fashion or the Government's social engineering agenda, dictates it.</p><p></p><p>I suppose I'm quite 'shocking' really ... I'm an outspoken 60 year old whose eyebrows aren't as defined as they were, who doesn't wear make up, doesn't dress in tight fitting clothes that barely meet around the middle (God I hate that shabby chic style that reminds me of very poor quality tailoring and makes everyone look as if they couldn't afford a few metres of extra cloth). And I'm sure I've shocked many a person who expected me to dye my hair purple or rusty red.</p><p></p><p>I have a sister who's 7 years older than I and whose hair is the colour of mahogany. The older she gets, the darker she dyes it in an effort to look younger, yet the effect is to make her wrinkles even more obvious. The hair just doesn't go with the face. </p><p></p><p>And in case you're wondering ... no, we don't get on at all. We may be sisters, but she hated me on sight from the minute I was born and as she got older she never changed her opinion about having a younger sister. She simply didn't mature enough to accept that younger people come along in life and there's nothing we can do about it. Dyeing our hair doesn't make us as young as them, trying to disguise our age doesn't change anything. Only acceptance does that. And over the years I have eventually grown to dislike my sister every bit as much as she dislikes me and again, I'm 60, I'm happy with disliking people now instead of wearing myself out trying to be accepted by them. Who needs it? Life's short enough without spending half of it on superficial clap trap.</p><p></p><p>End of monologue and apologies in advance if my opinions have caused offence. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GraceK, post: 343909, member: 47233"] I'll be 60 next year and I don't mind being 60 at all. My hair is grey, I don't dye it and I don't try to make myself look younger than I am. My mind feels 17 and my body feels 60 and I'm well aware that my body is 60 years old so I don't push it to be anything other than what it is. Gravity has taken its toll, my feet are no longer pretty, I have toes that suddenly became crooked but I wear sandals in the summer because I do NOT care about my age, my deformities, my wrinkles, my grey hair offending anyone who is 'sensitive to the ravages of age'. I've never fallen for the hype that tells us that 40 is the new 30, 60 the new 50 etc because I saw that very quickly as the political ploy it is - get us to think we're younger than we are and we may not notice those extra years the Government plonked on the baby boomers working life! Conspiracy theories? Yep I believe in a lot of them especially where social engineering is concerned and how we're all being guided to believe we can live forever if we can have a nip and tuck, dress 20 years younger than we are and possibly behave 30 years younger than we are. Fifty has always been 50, 60 has ALWAYS been 60, it's just that we're encourage these days to pretend we're younger than we are. So what's wrong with accepting our age and neither being proud of nor ashamed of it? I'm well aware my best years are gone, I used up all my energy on looking after my family, my parents and working to pay the mortgage. I still got older and sicker in the process and that's life. Now, I'm happy to be 60, I can refuse evenings out with people on the grounds that I need to be in bed by 9pm or I can't function the next day or that I simply don't like crowds, restaurants or shopping for the sake of it. I can nod off in my chair without worrying that I've wasted some time sleeping. I don't feel the need to fill my time being 'useful' or 'purposeful'. I can be me and to hell with what anyone thinks. At first I was indignant but now I'm even more grateful for that 'invisibility cloak' that is bestowed upon menopausal women that allows us to blend into the background where we can think about all the things we never had time to think about when we were busy being young and where we can be ignored and not bothered by conversations and clap trap that no longer interests us. I'm free to NOT talk about shoes and handbags all day long just to fill in the gaps in conversation. I can engage in MEANINGFUL conversation or keep my mouth shut and feel perfectly OK about it. When you work in an office, the amount of shoe, handbag and fascinator that substitutes for meaningful conversation never ceases to amaze me, and I can honestly say I really can't abide the 'girlie' conversations that take place. I never was part of them at 17 because I found them boring and I'm not suddenly going to turn into a 'girlie' at 60 years of age because fashion or the Government's social engineering agenda, dictates it. I suppose I'm quite 'shocking' really ... I'm an outspoken 60 year old whose eyebrows aren't as defined as they were, who doesn't wear make up, doesn't dress in tight fitting clothes that barely meet around the middle (God I hate that shabby chic style that reminds me of very poor quality tailoring and makes everyone look as if they couldn't afford a few metres of extra cloth). And I'm sure I've shocked many a person who expected me to dye my hair purple or rusty red. I have a sister who's 7 years older than I and whose hair is the colour of mahogany. The older she gets, the darker she dyes it in an effort to look younger, yet the effect is to make her wrinkles even more obvious. The hair just doesn't go with the face. And in case you're wondering ... no, we don't get on at all. We may be sisters, but she hated me on sight from the minute I was born and as she got older she never changed her opinion about having a younger sister. She simply didn't mature enough to accept that younger people come along in life and there's nothing we can do about it. Dyeing our hair doesn't make us as young as them, trying to disguise our age doesn't change anything. Only acceptance does that. And over the years I have eventually grown to dislike my sister every bit as much as she dislikes me and again, I'm 60, I'm happy with disliking people now instead of wearing myself out trying to be accepted by them. Who needs it? Life's short enough without spending half of it on superficial clap trap. End of monologue and apologies in advance if my opinions have caused offence. :D [/QUOTE]
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