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<blockquote data-quote="Jenny15" data-source="post: 1807763" data-attributes="member: 196992"><p>I feel for you. I hesitate to comment specifically about anything in your post as it's not my place to. I've long considered that the only people who really know what goes on inside a long term relationship/marriage are the people in it. </p><p></p><p>Speaking only from my own experiences, I just want to raise the possibility that "we need to talk" could turn out to be a good thing, or at least not a bad thing, if you get my drift. More communication is often better than less communication. I have an Aspie family member whose behaviour isn't always rational and who would usually react negatively to being reminded about previously agreed tasks. A talk together, as long as it doesn't get out of hand, could be mutually beneficial. It gives you a chance to calmly raise your concerns and reach some level of agreement. </p><p></p><p>In my experience an Aspie can often act irrationally but let's face it so can everyone. They have a specific issue with their thought processes that can make it harder to act rationally, especially when under stress, as I'm sure you've observed. It's always so tricky determining when to cut them slack because they can't help it and are almost always doing their best, versus when they need to take responsibility for their choices as an adult. </p><p></p><p>I wish you well! Remember the reasons you like and love him and that we are all capable of making mistakes. Remember that you have a right to be treated reasonably, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jenny15, post: 1807763, member: 196992"] I feel for you. I hesitate to comment specifically about anything in your post as it's not my place to. I've long considered that the only people who really know what goes on inside a long term relationship/marriage are the people in it. Speaking only from my own experiences, I just want to raise the possibility that "we need to talk" could turn out to be a good thing, or at least not a bad thing, if you get my drift. More communication is often better than less communication. I have an Aspie family member whose behaviour isn't always rational and who would usually react negatively to being reminded about previously agreed tasks. A talk together, as long as it doesn't get out of hand, could be mutually beneficial. It gives you a chance to calmly raise your concerns and reach some level of agreement. In my experience an Aspie can often act irrationally but let's face it so can everyone. They have a specific issue with their thought processes that can make it harder to act rationally, especially when under stress, as I'm sure you've observed. It's always so tricky determining when to cut them slack because they can't help it and are almost always doing their best, versus when they need to take responsibility for their choices as an adult. I wish you well! Remember the reasons you like and love him and that we are all capable of making mistakes. Remember that you have a right to be treated reasonably, too. [/QUOTE]
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