Hi.
I think you CAN get over this but it is no fun at all. I have been in an air cast boot for 8 months now - awaiting suitable orthotic shoes on the NHS for the last three - but that is another story! I was told by the orthopaedic team that my local hospital contracts out its orthotics service as so huge delays are routine and they have no leverage; they did not even pretend it was an okay situation.
So, I was diagnosed with Charcot in my R mid-foot in late February. But the consultant now agrees that I had it for months before that e.g. I was in great pain on a hillwalking holiday in the Lake District last October. At diagnosis, my foot was very hot, inflamed, swollen and painful. Now the Charcot is dubbed inactive and the foot is cool and non-red, although it has healed in a deformed shape. I can still wear normal shoes though e.g. to drive in.
Don't try to drive in the air cast boot! It can get caught on things.
I only take my boot off in bed and to drive and for a shower etc. I try to make sure there is someone in the house when i shower, in case of a slip. I also pad certain bits of the boot with animal wool padding, bough in small boxes from the Chemist. I am lucky as I have not had any ulceration problems.
I don't have much pain now. Dihydrocodiene helped the fracture pain for the first few weeks, high doses of Evening Primrose Oil and a Vit B Complex supplement seem to help the neuropathy e.g. I no longer get night-time tingling and burning, although I did for some months before the Charcot was diagnosed.
So, 8 months on, life is livable. It will be better when I have special shoes. Even then, I have been told to keep the boot for emergencies, in case of a flare-up. I think ongoing care is pretty much non-existent - I have been discharged by both the ortho team and my diabetic foot clinic now - they just don't have the resources for long-term care.
Good luck! Don't despair. But realise that YOU will have to keep making a fuss and make things happen.
Laura Mac, West Yorkshire, mum to two young children.