Hi Kathy,
I too live in N. Ireland and i have a T1, 11 yr old son, who was diagnosed when he was 7yrs old. My heart really goes out to you and i can only imagine the frustration and worry you are experiencing. I think getting her to see a phychologist is a step in the right direction and i wish you all the luck in the world. I'm sorry i can't think of anything else for you to try, that you haven't already done, sending plenty of comforting (((hugs))) Mums need them too,
Good luck and take care,
Suzi x