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[carly]

Dear all

Thanks for reading this.

I just want some advice- My boyfriend (ex) and I have split up back in January and we have been at loggerheads for quite a bit of that time. It's an often stressful situation in the house. We are still living in the same house at the moment until we can sell up. My ex boyfriend is insulin dependant and normally has good control. He was diagnosed at 17. Recently though , since we split, he has been up and down a lot and I know that this is due to his lack of rest, avoiding the house and not eating properly. (ready meals, chippers and often skipping meals at work). In the last week he has had 3 hypos. Last night, I woke at 2am to him making a terrible noise ( I sleep upstairs so its lucky I heard him) . I went charging down the stairs and switched the light on to him fitting in bed, making a noise and shaking his head around. I tried to administer him hypo stop but he was just spitting it out so I called the ambulance. The woman on the phone told me not to give him any more hypo stop but I was so scared I thoguht he was going to die, although I knew really he wouldn’t. ! It was awful. I was just continuing to give him drops of it on his lips etc and rubbing his cheeks. Is this right that you can choke on hypostop ? The parademics arrived and gave him the glucogen injection and he came round in about 10 minutes.

The problem is, I'm so worried about him. I am going away on a family holiday in 5 weeks time and I'm now terrified to go. I am so scared he does that and no-one is there to help him. I feel sick with worry and I know I shouldn't. He needs to go to see the doctor but he is so stubborn I can't make him.

 

[czj]

I have to say well done for getting him help last might.

This would be a stressful situation if you were still together. You are facing a lot, selling a house is stressful enough without the breakup of your relationship to cope with. And him no longer looking after himself, which would be hard even if you were still together.

I hope someone else can offer you some advice.

 

[noblehead]

Hi Carly,

I remember you posting a week or two back about your partner having severe hypo's, I honestly think that it's in the best interests of all that he seeks help from his diabetes care team, you can't be there all of the time for him and sooner or later he is going to have to manage on his own.

Not a nice situation for you to be in but do try and persuade him to seek help, perhaps his mum and dad or other family member might be able to help you.

Good luck!!!

 

[Mr Happy]

The stress of the situation etc probably isn't helping, are there any alternatives for the holiday? Has he got friends or family that can stay over or is it worth you having a night or two away in advance so he can prepare for being on his own.

Without sounding harsh, he has to prepare for you not being there and his health is his responsibility. You deserve the chance to go on holiday and not be in fear of what might happen...

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