Did they tell you why they think you're going into the menopause? Why do
you think you are? Were the blood tests the two (FSH - follicle stimulating hormone - and luteinizing protein) which are used to confirm it? (I think I've got the names right!). Do you still have your uterus and both ovaries? If so, why the early menopause? The age does differ for all of us, but 41 is early.
Not everyone has problems with the menopause. I had a Mirena coil in place during mine, to stop dysmenorrhoea (bad periods but no-one knew why :roll: ), and when it came out 5 years later I was through the change. Maybe you could ask about one - see if it would help? It's loaded with progesterone.
I was about 50 when I had my menopause, and not diabetic, so I can't help much there.
There are various things you can eat/drink to assist with menopausal symptoms, I believe, such as nuts-and-seeds mixes. Search on Google - they are not all cranks. Ask your GP what will help; ask him to refer you to the hospital gynaecological clinic - are you still on their list after major surgery? Ask them for help.
You may still be suffering from a form of physical shock after the op., even if it was months ago. Depression is certainly likely after a big op., even more so after the long winter we've had. You could well be short of Vitamin D because of the lack of sunshine. Also, have you been checked for low thyroid? That can cause depression-like symptoms.
41 is young, but unless you wanted more children there are a lot of positives in this. No more contraception, for instance; no more packing STs for when you're away; no more constantly having to check you're equipped. No more PMT and bloating. And in my case, no more heavy blood loss and debilitating pain. You won't turn into a wrinkled hag overnight, and you won't lose your libido, either!
Have you discussed HRT? I never tried it, but I know a number of women who swear by it. Read around about it , talk to your gynaecologist, and make up your own mind. I'm sorry you have such bad experiences with the NHS. I'm lucky, I guess.
Do go talk it through with the gynaecologist. He should be able to help.
Best of luck with it all. Think about the positives, eat well, and try to get some sunshine on your skin. And let us know how you go on.
Viv 8)