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<blockquote data-quote="Q007" data-source="post: 449914" data-attributes="member: 73045"><p>Hiya, The more you write and the more I read the more I'm positive weight is not your key issue it's you, your mood. Your low self-worth and how you see yourself. I really think you'll beat yourself to the ground with attempts to exercise and lose weight until you get professional help with dealing with everything and how you deal with yourself. As for a partner, if you don't love yourself then no one will love you, d'you think? It all points to getting 'the man in the mirror' fixed first.</p><p></p><p>Have you heard of or tried EFT - emotional freedom therapy? Have a look on youtube would be a good start as a taster. I knew a life-coach for a while and she practised and offered lots of different 'you' treatments. I learned and practised EFT (tapping) and still use it at what she called 'high events' that could cause you stress or an emotional fall (for me, sometimes, is speaking at very large conferences). You don't fix yourself \ someone fix you in 10 minutes you have to deal with issue by issue. In the same period of time I knew a clinical psychologist (Doctor) very well (both these girls have long since moved on and I don't have regular contact now). She supported EFT and 'Mindfulness' - and you're right about childhood trauma. With trauma in childhood we develop coping skills with the 'events' that happen. It's astounding how much of this we drag up and into our adult life, ever wondered why the same kind of bosses follow you around whatever job you do? ever wondered why you date or marry the same kind of people (even if the relationships go bad, we go back out and find another partner with the same traits). It's you \ us \ me! that's the common denominator and EFT can help with these traumas that just follow us around through life like a bad smell. For years I did really well in my career but for the same period I felt I had to constantly tread broken glass to get on and there was always someone who got the same results as me but always seemed to land on their feet \ do things a lot easier than me. What she taught me was that no matter the 'How to' skills I had, if the person himself wasn't emotionally right then I was always going to have this struggle where I always felt worn out and exhausted for just trying to stay on top of my gain. Soon as I started feeling I was parking up all my emotional hang-ups life got easier, work got easier, relationships got better. I must stress though, I still fall over from time to time, funnily enough just recently, the blues! - No one would ever know unless I told them (coping skills), I go back to my EFT training and things start to ease up.</p><p></p><p>I get the impression you have some time on your hands, have a look at EFT, please give it more than a window shop. If you live in the South West I could give you the name of the contact I had, she's all over the web, I won't post her name here by could pass it over in a PM.</p><p></p><p>I could talk for days on these subjects, it hasn't stopped me from getting into 'dark periods' I'm a human so I accept that I break myself now and again, but these techniques have stopped me from crashing and burning totally.</p><p></p><p>I apologise for rambling, but as the Rasta man saying goes " Who feels it knows" - Keep talking. When is your Doctors appointment? remember the letter bit and don't leave it till the day before to fax it, don't give them a 'haven't had time to read it yet' excuse. Take care you. Kind wishes & regards, Q..</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Q007, post: 449914, member: 73045"] Hiya, The more you write and the more I read the more I'm positive weight is not your key issue it's you, your mood. Your low self-worth and how you see yourself. I really think you'll beat yourself to the ground with attempts to exercise and lose weight until you get professional help with dealing with everything and how you deal with yourself. As for a partner, if you don't love yourself then no one will love you, d'you think? It all points to getting 'the man in the mirror' fixed first. Have you heard of or tried EFT - emotional freedom therapy? Have a look on youtube would be a good start as a taster. I knew a life-coach for a while and she practised and offered lots of different 'you' treatments. I learned and practised EFT (tapping) and still use it at what she called 'high events' that could cause you stress or an emotional fall (for me, sometimes, is speaking at very large conferences). You don't fix yourself \ someone fix you in 10 minutes you have to deal with issue by issue. In the same period of time I knew a clinical psychologist (Doctor) very well (both these girls have long since moved on and I don't have regular contact now). She supported EFT and 'Mindfulness' - and you're right about childhood trauma. With trauma in childhood we develop coping skills with the 'events' that happen. It's astounding how much of this we drag up and into our adult life, ever wondered why the same kind of bosses follow you around whatever job you do? ever wondered why you date or marry the same kind of people (even if the relationships go bad, we go back out and find another partner with the same traits). It's you \ us \ me! that's the common denominator and EFT can help with these traumas that just follow us around through life like a bad smell. For years I did really well in my career but for the same period I felt I had to constantly tread broken glass to get on and there was always someone who got the same results as me but always seemed to land on their feet \ do things a lot easier than me. What she taught me was that no matter the 'How to' skills I had, if the person himself wasn't emotionally right then I was always going to have this struggle where I always felt worn out and exhausted for just trying to stay on top of my gain. Soon as I started feeling I was parking up all my emotional hang-ups life got easier, work got easier, relationships got better. I must stress though, I still fall over from time to time, funnily enough just recently, the blues! - No one would ever know unless I told them (coping skills), I go back to my EFT training and things start to ease up. I get the impression you have some time on your hands, have a look at EFT, please give it more than a window shop. If you live in the South West I could give you the name of the contact I had, she's all over the web, I won't post her name here by could pass it over in a PM. I could talk for days on these subjects, it hasn't stopped me from getting into 'dark periods' I'm a human so I accept that I break myself now and again, but these techniques have stopped me from crashing and burning totally. I apologise for rambling, but as the Rasta man saying goes " Who feels it knows" - Keep talking. When is your Doctors appointment? remember the letter bit and don't leave it till the day before to fax it, don't give them a 'haven't had time to read it yet' excuse. Take care you. Kind wishes & regards, Q.. [/QUOTE]
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