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<blockquote data-quote="RuthW" data-source="post: 875880" data-attributes="member: 148713"><p>I knew a woman who died of breast cancer and towards the end she said that the number of people who said or implied that she must have in some way "caused" it (by not having a baby and breastfeeding, by eating the "wrong things", etc) almost caused her as much pain as the prospect of dying shortly.</p><p></p><p>It's called "The Just World Theory". When people encounter suffering and death, they feel afraid and console themselves by creating the delusion for themselves that there is justice in the here-and-now. If you are suffering, you did something wrong or stupid. I don't do wrong or stupid things, so it can't happen to me. It's a psychological defense.</p><p></p><p>Oddly, extremely religious people often DON'T do this because they believe justice comes in the hereafter, not now. Part of the purpose of the world for them is suffering and helping each other. Of course, that depends a bit on the individual character too.</p><p></p><p>I just recognize that the person who said the stupid thing is in fact afraid, and speak to them gently and tell them how it's not so bad really. Their fear hurts them more than my diabetes hurts me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RuthW, post: 875880, member: 148713"] I knew a woman who died of breast cancer and towards the end she said that the number of people who said or implied that she must have in some way "caused" it (by not having a baby and breastfeeding, by eating the "wrong things", etc) almost caused her as much pain as the prospect of dying shortly. It's called "The Just World Theory". When people encounter suffering and death, they feel afraid and console themselves by creating the delusion for themselves that there is justice in the here-and-now. If you are suffering, you did something wrong or stupid. I don't do wrong or stupid things, so it can't happen to me. It's a psychological defense. Oddly, extremely religious people often DON'T do this because they believe justice comes in the hereafter, not now. Part of the purpose of the world for them is suffering and helping each other. Of course, that depends a bit on the individual character too. I just recognize that the person who said the stupid thing is in fact afraid, and speak to them gently and tell them how it's not so bad really. Their fear hurts them more than my diabetes hurts me. [/QUOTE]
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