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<blockquote data-quote="alaska" data-source="post: 2172073" data-attributes="member: 14213"><p>I can relate to a significant degree on this.</p><p></p><p>Self-harm with me was all about the lancets for me at school. In adult life, I've slowly dealt. Having a partner you love show you in the expression on their face how much it pains them gives another way of looking at things. It helps a bit, I've found. Would I want to hurt those so close to me through hurting myself?</p><p></p><p>The other thing to help deal with self-harm urges is to rather than cut at my arms, to imagine a tree growing out of the same spot.</p><p></p><p>Seeing hurt as ground for growth, for new strength.</p><p></p><p>These are little important things that can perhaps help.</p><p></p><p>The most useful thing for me was therapy. The hurt comes out through self-harm, the question is where that hurt is buried? What is triggering it to awaken?</p><p></p><p>I did something a bit odd, which was to do psychotherapy on myself. I read a book on EMDR therapy and self-applied it. You're "not meant to" but I did. I went back in time to as close to the source of the hurt as I could and re-evaluated why I felt so bad about myself.</p><p></p><p>A psychotherapist is trained to do this and if psychotherapy is something you wish to consider, it could be useful.</p><p></p><p>Have you looked into (or had) therapy for Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder?</p><p></p><p>Dialectical Behavioural Therapy is one of the areas of therapy and that one is interesting as the researcher who developed it had EUPD.</p><p></p><p>Personally, I don't look at EUPD as a personality disorder. Many people with EUPD have extraordinary gifts for compassion and empathy. Each shadow has its light and all that.</p><p></p><p>We're not alone in this. What you're feeling, the hurt is valid. Don't feel guilty for feeling hurt. The other big help I got was a book on Self-Compassion by Kristen Neff. She encouraged me (through her writing) to connect my experience with that of others. To have emotions and feelings is human. She encourages people to treat their own selves as they their own best friends. To be compassionate and understanding of one's self. That was really valuable to read.</p><p></p><p>Take care Andrew, I'm not on here a lot but I pop in every now and again to see if I connect with a thread.</p><p></p><p>Look after yourself.</p><p></p><p>Ed</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="alaska, post: 2172073, member: 14213"] I can relate to a significant degree on this. Self-harm with me was all about the lancets for me at school. In adult life, I've slowly dealt. Having a partner you love show you in the expression on their face how much it pains them gives another way of looking at things. It helps a bit, I've found. Would I want to hurt those so close to me through hurting myself? The other thing to help deal with self-harm urges is to rather than cut at my arms, to imagine a tree growing out of the same spot. Seeing hurt as ground for growth, for new strength. These are little important things that can perhaps help. The most useful thing for me was therapy. The hurt comes out through self-harm, the question is where that hurt is buried? What is triggering it to awaken? I did something a bit odd, which was to do psychotherapy on myself. I read a book on EMDR therapy and self-applied it. You're "not meant to" but I did. I went back in time to as close to the source of the hurt as I could and re-evaluated why I felt so bad about myself. A psychotherapist is trained to do this and if psychotherapy is something you wish to consider, it could be useful. Have you looked into (or had) therapy for Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder? Dialectical Behavioural Therapy is one of the areas of therapy and that one is interesting as the researcher who developed it had EUPD. Personally, I don't look at EUPD as a personality disorder. Many people with EUPD have extraordinary gifts for compassion and empathy. Each shadow has its light and all that. We're not alone in this. What you're feeling, the hurt is valid. Don't feel guilty for feeling hurt. The other big help I got was a book on Self-Compassion by Kristen Neff. She encouraged me (through her writing) to connect my experience with that of others. To have emotions and feelings is human. She encourages people to treat their own selves as they their own best friends. To be compassionate and understanding of one's self. That was really valuable to read. Take care Andrew, I'm not on here a lot but I pop in every now and again to see if I connect with a thread. Look after yourself. Ed [/QUOTE]
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