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Type 1 + type 1

daniT1D

daniT1D

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Just wondered if any of you are in a relationship with a fellow type 1?

Let me explain the reason for my curiosity / noseyness ...
I was diagnosed 10 months ago and am single (don't worry, I know this isn't a dating website and this isn't a proposal!!) and I can't imagine the difficulties of a new relationship along with the diabetes as I don't feel anyone understands (except you lot on here ofcourse!) therefore my logical conclusion was a relationship with another diabetic!

I'd love to know your thoughts/experiences on this :)


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daniT1D said:
Just wondered if any of you are in a relationship with a fellow type 1?

Let me explain the reason for my curiosity / noseyness ...
I was diagnosed 10 months ago and am single (don't worry, I know this isn't a dating website and this isn't a proposal!!) and I can't imagine the difficulties of a new relationship along with the diabetes as I don't feel anyone understands (except you lot on here ofcourse!) therefore my logical conclusion was a relationship with another diabetic!

I'd love to know your thoughts/experiences on this :)


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It could be a fantastic idea... You can both eat well and plan your meals together knowing they won't wip out a chocolate cake for pudding and ask "want some?" ;)

I'm the same as you, single and diagnosed 3 weeks ago (same age too :D ) what worries me is that someone might think differently of me because of it... Do we hide it from them or tell them? I've not even got the energy to think about men at the moment but hopefully in time I will. I'm struggling at the moment just going out for dinner with my friends (trying to count the carbs and sort myself out) let alone a date! Jeeeez I'd probably have a heart attack! Haha x


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daniT1D said:
Just wondered if any of you are in a relationship with a fellow type 1?

Let me explain the reason for my curiosity / noseyness ...
I was diagnosed 10 months ago and am single (don't worry, I know this isn't a dating website and this isn't a proposal!!) and I can't imagine the difficulties of a new relationship along with the diabetes as I don't feel anyone understands (except you lot on here ofcourse!) therefore my logical conclusion was a relationship with another diabetic!

I'd love to know your thoughts/experiences on this :)


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Hello, i stumbled across this forum by accident, and saw your question about relationships, this is not anything that i would normally have done, as this is the first time i have ever visited a forum site of any type, i was actually looking at the problems of BSLs and coffee, but feel obligated to help you out with my experiences. I have been a Type 1 for 53 years and have been married twice and have children to both marriages, both ladies i married at first never had anything to do with diabetics, we had a daughter in the first marriage and 2 boys in the second, there is a reason i am telling you this and that is if you intend to have children you need to think about what i am about to tell you. My daughter is the only diabetic out of the 3 of them but it was not until just recently we found out possibly why, she became a type 1 diabetic, and that was because my wife had diabetes close in her family as well, although i am the only diabetic in my family, the 2 boys now 27, and 30 are not diabetics and neither are their children, due to my second wife having no diabetes any where in her family tree, and although my daughter has 4 children 2 girls and 2 boys they are also not diabetics.
In summary i am saying that if you are in a relationship where you both are type one then the likelihood of your offspring becoming the same is twice as high as if only 1 of you are diabetics.
If your are in love with someone they will want to know everything about you, and how they can help you with your diabetes, that is what true love is and any imperfections you may see yourself with, is not how anyone who will love you will see.
I hope this may help you there is a lot more i could tell you but i feel that this may be what you are asking, take care of yourself and god bless you on your endevours.
 
@Lottie89 glad you know where I'm coming from. That's amazing that you're already back out with friends after 3 weeks, well done.

I feel most 'normal' and like I fit in when I'm on this forum and wish you were all local so I could invite you round for coffee!


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Jus to add this, i was only diagnosed last june i had been seening someone for a few months someone id known years, one day injecting he said "oh turn away when yer doing that" told him how that comment made me feel n told myself thats his problem not mine! That didnt work out for other reasons. This is now part of who i am so guys can either like it or lump it!

I would not seek out bf,s based on illnesses, reason being i am only type 1 in my family, i am the youngest of 9 and only 1 out of about 30 cousins on one side. N only one other cousin has it out of 15 on other side! I have 15 nieces n nephews from 30 years old down to 2 years old, none of them have it!
Whats for u wont go by you! And couples with no illnesses can have kids with downsyndrome and very severe disabilities! These things cant always be predicted! Neither of my parents had any illnesses yet i have this! If ye meet a non-diabetic who dont accept u with it, they clearly aint worth the bother!


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I would like to know if you are willing to be interview about your diabetes?
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For some reason I would rather be single than in a relationship with another T1. Not quite sure why. Too much risk in one place? Like not all the company executives are allowed to travel on the same plane type of thing maybe? It just feels risky. Maybe because I wouldn't want to look after a T1. :-( That's pretty rich considering how I've let partners help me.

Couple of points though -

Any partner must accept and support your condition and how you need to deal with it, whether they are T1 or not. Educate him or get rid.

The odds of a T1 couple having T1 children are a lot higher, not just twice as high.

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I am on my own and I know I think I may find it difficult to tell a future someone. It's not the actual diabetes, it's all the other conditions that I have as well that go with it:(
Basically at the end of the day, if that person likes you after say 3 or 4 dates/meets, then tell them and if they don't like it , then it's their problem and move on and let them jog on:yuck:. Just wondering......... is it men or women who are more sympathetic, more understanding and have empathy for the new partner with chronic medical conditions ? or the younger generation or the older ones?, just a thought
 
I met my boyfriend just one week after being diagnosed (July last year) and he is the best ever, so supportive and really gone out of his way to find out everything he can about the disease and came with me on my carb counting course to know how to work out carbs for me when cooking :) I can understand where your coming from in that life would be so much easier but if you find the right person then they should really embrace your condition and do everything possible to help. Best thing I did was be as honest as possible with my partner and not avoid telling him stuff just cos I thought 'he won't understand as he's not diabetic'. :)


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I will marry a Marsian in order to have better DNA LOL to improve the Genes for future Generation of me lol

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On Mars I believe Real Estate is still cheap and the divorce courts are not that biased and missed up though they're getting there

Or perhaps a Klingon

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I believe this is were i should stop and go to sleep because I am losing it lol

Remember to ...
Leave Britney Alone ....

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I just can't believe how people can have everything anyone can ask for and then lose it all...
 
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I'm happily married to a non diabetic but, if I were single, I don't think I'd want a T1 partner. Purely selfish reason really. My diabetes has always been a bit uncontrollable which makes me so cross with myself and I'm very competitive, so I don't think I could stand someone being able to have perfect control at something I fail at quite often :( lol


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Been lurking these forums for a while but reading this topic I thought I'd share my experience!

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 years. She's been a Type 1 diabetic since she was 9 year's old (We're in our early 20's now). I've always tried my best to be as understanding and loving as possible, especially seeing exactly how much of a struggle it can be at times.

Anyway she occasionally did that thing where you test non diabetic's blood sugars and throughout the years I always had normal results. However last Autumn my blood sugar came in at 11mmol. I buried my head in the sand for a few weeks and did nothing despite all the symptoms (Losing weight, constantly tired, weeing loads, etc). Another blood test a few weeks later in November later came in at 27mmol. Within 2 days I was diagnosed as T1. I was beyond shocked and I'm still adjusting to life really, but having a diabetic girlfriend for 5 years meant I already knew most of the basics!

It goes without saying I wish neither of us were diabetic but being able to support and encourage each other has helped me massively. Not to mention her making sure I have all my supplies when I go out..





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I know this isn't what your asking, but I don't have diabetes, but my boyfriend is type 1, I would so I am pretty darn helpful with it all. When I met him he very rarely did his insulin and just plain didn't care (even 10 years down the line when I met him). Since my nagging he has completely turnt himself around!

Hoooooorah!!!


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