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<blockquote data-quote="kitedoc" data-source="post: 2067677" data-attributes="member: 468714"><p>Does a leopard change his spots? As some things from experience not as health professional advice or opinion:</p><p>I put it to you that he cannot change or adapt to your current situation to enable a harmonious resolution or to a future one with children. </p><p>Wishing so, dreaming so is not reality and reality can be harsh but also provides you with the insight to stop bending over backwards to agree to his demands and behaviour and ruining your own health in the process.</p><p>There has to be your needs to consider, your self esteem and self worth.</p><p>And given what has been described by you of his behaviour, would he be good father material?</p><p>The stress of the situation cannot be doing your diabetes any good and your words suggest that it is you having to make all the adaptions and changes. This is bullying and abuse of you whether you realise it or not. Can he be trusted to help you in a hypo?</p><p>Please obtain counselling yourself about this. In this situation you describe it can be difficult for you to see that what is happening to you.</p><p>He is likely to refuse counselling as a couple anyway because he does not think he is the problem.</p><p>There may be things you can do about your diabetes control but in the current environment that is fraught with difficulty.</p><p>As others have said, notify your GP and specialist and nurse.</p><p>Counselling can be a way to help explore your options and knowing you have support of your family and friends is important in this.</p><p>You are not stuck, you do have options, there is no shame in having to take a different path and you are not alone in this happening.</p><p>And there will be ways, choices to help with the diabetes ups and downs but fearing each cgm alarm and the effects of highs and lows in his presence is not a happy life.</p><p>You deserve better, much better.</p><p>Best Wishes and please obtain that counselling!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="kitedoc, post: 2067677, member: 468714"] Does a leopard change his spots? As some things from experience not as health professional advice or opinion: I put it to you that he cannot change or adapt to your current situation to enable a harmonious resolution or to a future one with children. Wishing so, dreaming so is not reality and reality can be harsh but also provides you with the insight to stop bending over backwards to agree to his demands and behaviour and ruining your own health in the process. There has to be your needs to consider, your self esteem and self worth. And given what has been described by you of his behaviour, would he be good father material? The stress of the situation cannot be doing your diabetes any good and your words suggest that it is you having to make all the adaptions and changes. This is bullying and abuse of you whether you realise it or not. Can he be trusted to help you in a hypo? Please obtain counselling yourself about this. In this situation you describe it can be difficult for you to see that what is happening to you. He is likely to refuse counselling as a couple anyway because he does not think he is the problem. There may be things you can do about your diabetes control but in the current environment that is fraught with difficulty. As others have said, notify your GP and specialist and nurse. Counselling can be a way to help explore your options and knowing you have support of your family and friends is important in this. You are not stuck, you do have options, there is no shame in having to take a different path and you are not alone in this happening. And there will be ways, choices to help with the diabetes ups and downs but fearing each cgm alarm and the effects of highs and lows in his presence is not a happy life. You deserve better, much better. Best Wishes and please obtain that counselling!! [/QUOTE]
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