yellowmonkey
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Hi all,
Just a bit concerned about my partner with TI and wondered if anyone had any advice.
He was diagnosed a few years ago and as a result lost his job. Although he managed to gain employment since, its never been for long. He seems to drift from job to job, lasting only months -sometimes even days. He always makes excuses which could sound plausable, but I can't help feeling there is more to it.
At the beginning of the year he managed to get the job he had always wanted.....however, he walked out after three days. He walked away from a position he won't get again - great prospects, secure, good salary and so on. He simply said it wasn't the job he thought it was. Since then he's worked for about three days. What the hell is wrong with him. I know he wants to work!...At the moment he struggles to pay his bills with dwindling savings that should be for his future. What on earth is wrong with him?
I tried to sit him down the other night and talk to him. He says that when he arrives at a job he just can't face people and lacks confidence, so much so he just has to get away. He says he feels nothing, just empty.
Its such a shame - he's a brilliant, intelligent, clever person who is normally great with people. However, I've recently realised that his confidence has taken a sharp drop. He won't go out anymore, or anything. I have to compile a shopping list and shop for him. He said he sat in the supermarket car park for five minutes the other night, then drove home. He couldn't face seeing anyone he might know, etc, or being around people. He's recently received some great news in his personal life - news that anyone would be ecstatic about - however, he seems untouched by it. Still he sits in everyday. When he does speak to people - like relatives, friends, and even the consultant at his recent diabetes appt. he's always smiling, joking, etc. You'd never think anything was wrong. When he gets home, nothing. I don't get what is wrong with him. He can't go on like this. He needs to work.
With regard to his diabetes, I have it too, so there is always my support! I think he's struggling with control. However, these past few months he's focused on it more and is in good shape. It can't be that that is the problem. I know initially he struggled because of his job loss but he still went on to get the job he was aiming for....but then to walk out on it with no real reason?! He's only in his late 20's. I don't know what to do. He's miserable all the time. He doesn't sleep....and sometimes gets up at 4am and goes walking!
He won't talk to a doctor. Should I ring his doctor and ask for advice? Can I do that? Has anyone else any similar experiences?
Just a bit concerned about my partner with TI and wondered if anyone had any advice.
He was diagnosed a few years ago and as a result lost his job. Although he managed to gain employment since, its never been for long. He seems to drift from job to job, lasting only months -sometimes even days. He always makes excuses which could sound plausable, but I can't help feeling there is more to it.
At the beginning of the year he managed to get the job he had always wanted.....however, he walked out after three days. He walked away from a position he won't get again - great prospects, secure, good salary and so on. He simply said it wasn't the job he thought it was. Since then he's worked for about three days. What the hell is wrong with him. I know he wants to work!...At the moment he struggles to pay his bills with dwindling savings that should be for his future. What on earth is wrong with him?
I tried to sit him down the other night and talk to him. He says that when he arrives at a job he just can't face people and lacks confidence, so much so he just has to get away. He says he feels nothing, just empty.
Its such a shame - he's a brilliant, intelligent, clever person who is normally great with people. However, I've recently realised that his confidence has taken a sharp drop. He won't go out anymore, or anything. I have to compile a shopping list and shop for him. He said he sat in the supermarket car park for five minutes the other night, then drove home. He couldn't face seeing anyone he might know, etc, or being around people. He's recently received some great news in his personal life - news that anyone would be ecstatic about - however, he seems untouched by it. Still he sits in everyday. When he does speak to people - like relatives, friends, and even the consultant at his recent diabetes appt. he's always smiling, joking, etc. You'd never think anything was wrong. When he gets home, nothing. I don't get what is wrong with him. He can't go on like this. He needs to work.
With regard to his diabetes, I have it too, so there is always my support! I think he's struggling with control. However, these past few months he's focused on it more and is in good shape. It can't be that that is the problem. I know initially he struggled because of his job loss but he still went on to get the job he was aiming for....but then to walk out on it with no real reason?! He's only in his late 20's. I don't know what to do. He's miserable all the time. He doesn't sleep....and sometimes gets up at 4am and goes walking!
He won't talk to a doctor. Should I ring his doctor and ask for advice? Can I do that? Has anyone else any similar experiences?