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<blockquote data-quote="Brunneria" data-source="post: 1087219" data-attributes="member: 41816"><p>Denial is a very powerful thing.</p><p></p><p>I totally mishandled my father, and I regret it bitterly.</p><p>He was showing clear symptoms of high bg after meals (sleepiness, excess widdling, etc.)</p><p>So I prick-tested him and was alarmed.</p><p>Told him to get down to docs, gave him my meter, a couple of books, instructions how to test and to avoid foods that sent him sky high.</p><p>Then I drove 250 miles home.</p><p>He has always been a reasonable, kind, generous man, interested in science, information, health and diet. He was an engineer. I expected him to approach this as he has approached every other issue in his 8 decades - calmly, sensibly, factually and capably.</p><p></p><p>What I got was silence.</p><p></p><p>Enquiries about docs and testing were dodged.</p><p></p><p>2 years later,<em><strong> he has still not gone to docs. </strong></em> </p><p>I have tried discussion, explosion, reasoning, dire warnings and acceptance, in rotation. None have achieved anything. Although recently they watched a TV programme about the evils of sugar, and were horrified. Gee Whizz. No visible change in diet though. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite16" alt=":banghead:" title="Bang Head :banghead:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":banghead:" /></p><p></p><p>His eyesight is deteriorating and I think he is losing sensation in his feet, but he denies both.</p><p></p><p>He eats 'sensibly', except for 'just one won't hurt' several times a day. And hasn't taken anything on board. </p><p>His main technique to avoid testing is 'I forgot and it isn't worth testing now', 'the meters aren't accurate anyway' and 'I don't eat this often, so what is the harm'.</p><p></p><p>In retrospect, I should have scared the living daylights out of him and driven him to the doctors myself - but unless he had engaged, it would have achieved absolutely nothing.</p><p></p><p>Moral of the story: you cannot make anyone take responsibility. They have to do it for themselves, in their own sweet time.</p><p></p><p>But it is heartbreaking to watch.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Brunneria, post: 1087219, member: 41816"] Denial is a very powerful thing. I totally mishandled my father, and I regret it bitterly. He was showing clear symptoms of high bg after meals (sleepiness, excess widdling, etc.) So I prick-tested him and was alarmed. Told him to get down to docs, gave him my meter, a couple of books, instructions how to test and to avoid foods that sent him sky high. Then I drove 250 miles home. He has always been a reasonable, kind, generous man, interested in science, information, health and diet. He was an engineer. I expected him to approach this as he has approached every other issue in his 8 decades - calmly, sensibly, factually and capably. What I got was silence. Enquiries about docs and testing were dodged. 2 years later,[I][B] he has still not gone to docs. [/B][/I] I have tried discussion, explosion, reasoning, dire warnings and acceptance, in rotation. None have achieved anything. Although recently they watched a TV programme about the evils of sugar, and were horrified. Gee Whizz. No visible change in diet though. :banghead: His eyesight is deteriorating and I think he is losing sensation in his feet, but he denies both. He eats 'sensibly', except for 'just one won't hurt' several times a day. And hasn't taken anything on board. His main technique to avoid testing is 'I forgot and it isn't worth testing now', 'the meters aren't accurate anyway' and 'I don't eat this often, so what is the harm'. In retrospect, I should have scared the living daylights out of him and driven him to the doctors myself - but unless he had engaged, it would have achieved absolutely nothing. Moral of the story: you cannot make anyone take responsibility. They have to do it for themselves, in their own sweet time. But it is heartbreaking to watch. [/QUOTE]
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