@Outlier, thank-you so much for the compliment, although ill-deserved! I do think some tolerance has come with age, as I look back (from the height, or depth, of my 79 years) on so many stupid opinions and actions I perpetrated in the past. How did anyone put up with me, let alone be my friend? And yet I also find myself boiling with rage and having to switch off the radio when certain views are aired.
Yes, of course our wishes should be respected, particularly when medical needs are involved. I plan sometime to reply to the question, "Don't you like (doughnuts or etc)?" "Yes, but I like my feet more." Calculated thoroughly to embarrass and maybe horrify the questioner. Disclaimer - I did not come up with this. I wish I could remember who did.