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Hi sorry I feel a bit guilty being on here as I don't have diabetes. However my husband has just been diagnosed with type 2. He is 45 and almost 23 stone and about 5'9 in height. He has had high blood pressure for years and at a recent BP check when it was higher than usual the GP sent for blood tests. Last week he came back and advised he has to go on to metoformin tablets. He tells me he only has to be in them for six months if he can lose weight. However I'm so worried about his motivation. I've noticed lots of different health complaints due to his weight and he's been saying for years he needs to lose weight but refuses to do anything about it. He said following the prescription right that's it I've got to do this now but Last year he went for a retinal screen and was warned if he didn't change his lifestyle he would end up diabetic and did nothing about it. A few years ago he joined slimming world and lost 2.5 stone then gave up and put it all back on again. I can't seem to get him motivated to change his lifestyle despite this diagnos I still don't think he'll change. His mum was diabetic so he knows full well the implications and she died at 51. Therefore it will be down to me to cook for the family and watch what he eats and I don't think it's fair he needs to take responsibility but every time I try to make positive changes for him he say I'm nagging him and keeping on about it. I admit I have nagged him because I could see this coming and I only care about what happens to him. I want the man I married back. He says he "hasn't got time" to go to slimming world, he is self employed so he does have time, then he says he can't afford it, he could get a 12 week referral from the doctor but he won't ask for it! The doctor has given him the name of the Michael Mosley diet to look into together with an NHS diabetes well being x-pert course dates programme. When I asked him about this he said he can't go as they're all stupid times in the day, I pointed out that's they do evening sessions for those who work and he said the doctor said he didn't have to go or follow that particular diet she just has to tell you about that info! I don't believe this. He said he said to the doctor that he just has to cut down his portion sizes and exercise more and she agreed! True if he will do it but he won't! I've looked at the Michael Mosley diet which looks good but he wouldn't read it. I could start cooking the recipes but my problem with him is what to substitute for carbs? I'm happy to cut his portions down and provide more veg but if we didn't have pasta, rice or potatoes with a meal he's unlikely to eat it! I know you can make thinks like courgette strips for spaghetti but he just wouldn't eat it! Same with bread! I bought the smaller 400g brown loafs other than the 800g as I know this is what slimming world recommends and he said it was ridiculous he wasn't going to eat it as it's horrible (it's not) so this is what I'm up against. I've also got a 16 year daughter whose the exact opposite and needs building up as I also work full time it's going to be hard juggling so many meals. He deferred picking up his prescription he was given Thursday until Saturday then was going to take the first tablet this morning. He has to take one a day after breakfast then two per day after the first week. First problem this morning he doesn't eat breakfast (unless it's a cooked one) but mostly he can't stomach eating first thing before he goes off to work. I got him up earlier this morning so if he wanted eggs, bacon or toast he could, he then claimed he didn't have time. I got him out weetabix, toast, yoghurt, apple and banana and said have one of these instead then and he said he couldn't face it and just had a cup of coffee. I'm sorry for the whinge but I just do not know how to help him. I'm also trying to plan tea I'm thinking chicken breast and roasted Mediterranean vegetables but I'm stuck on what to have with it, he'd say it was too dry and needed a sauce! And this is only day one. Any pointers on how I can motivate him and meal suggestions or diet books that would suit the whole family and avoid the problems and barriers he will inevitably put up please would be welcome. Thank you.