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It sound like he's living a separate life from you, not one of a devoted partner ! So unless you want to move out of this relationship, I would say just just lead your life separate from him now.. You know and I expect he knows what he is doing to himself .. So the more detached you become the less painful it will be for you.
You must ask yourself .. Is this man wanting to just be alone .. Not part of a relationship with you in it. Life is way to short to be stuck in a loveless relationship.. Cut the emotional ties and just enjoy your own life now. If he wants to join in then that great .. Otherwise leave him to himself. Who knows mr right may just be around the corner ...
@Enclave ….having read your post I think that you have hit the nail on the head as they say….I certainly feel that we have been increasingly leading separate lives….
This is not necessarily a bad thing (thought I expect there may be many that disagree with this) as it does allow me time to myself to do the things that I want and need to do.
I have, as you say, tried to become detached from the situation and have regularly kept telling myself in my head “it is not my problem” in order to try to cope with the situation…..sometimes this works….but invariably I come back to trying to think what I can do to make the situation better…
As to whether he wants to be alone I would say that this is not the case…I think he does love and care for me even though he hasn’t really shown it lately …..but then I too could be accused of that, having tried to distance myself on a number of occasions both physically and emotionally from the situation just to deal with my own feelings....
Having said all that .....I do feel that we may have reached a turning point in that following a recent conversation with someone a few nights ago I know now that I need to talk to him and get this sorted out….…there are also small glimmers of him wanting to make changes so perhaps all is not lost just yet and there is some hope…
For the moment I will stick with it ….but if all else fails, as you say, I can start looking round the corner for Mr Right….though whether he would want me, who knows….
Thank you for your message....it really helped by making me think about the situation .....even though I already knew that was what was happening, seeing it in black and white just brings it home and is making me deal with it.