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My boyfriend is Type 1 for over 20 years, so most of his life. We are together for 2 years and I'm still learning about it. I never knew anyone with diabetes, or at least I do not know about it, so I really admire how he manages to live with it. We do not live together and I rarely see him going low but when it happens it terrifies me. It happened maybe 2-3 times during our relationship but I obviously know it happens more often, just without me being around. Problem is that when I try to help when he's going low, he fights everything I try to do. I ask him to eat, he says no. I ask him to drink something sweet, he says no. First time it happened was when we were on a trip and out on the street. I didn't know what's happening when his movements were pretty uncoordinated and suddenly he just sat down on a pavement. I figured he might be low so I asked him to eat something and he didn't want to. After some time I finally managed to convince him to get up so we can sit at the bus stop and he decided on his own to eat. Later when we spoke about it, he told me that if I'll try to force him to do something, he'll be fighting it. This comes from the way his mother was trying to help - she obviously recognises when he's coming home and he's low but what she was doing was taking a glass of sweet drink, putting it under his nose and saying "drink" - and he didn't want to.
Does this happen to anyone else? Do your partners fight you when they are low and you try to help? He told me to work with him, not against him - I guess "against" is only in his hypo mind as he perfectly knows I'm only trying to help, but it leaves me ... well helpless. I learned how to recognise his hypos as he's pretty quiet guy, doesn't talk much and when he goes low, he starts being talkative and as I said, pretty uncoordinated. Few days ago we were out at a festival and suddenly I realised he's already low (which was pretty weird because he ate 3 hours before) so I said it's time for us to leave. He asked why and I said "because you're going low" and he was already in a fighting mode as he said "NO!". I thought ok, i'm not going to fight him. 10 mins later I said I want to leave, he again asked why and I said "because it's late and I'm working tomorrow" - that worked, we left. I know he alway carries some sweets in his pocket so I asked "do you have your sweets with you?" and again, in a fighting mode, he said "no!". I didn't say anything, just drove him home. When were near his home he didn't want to go out of the car, he was talkative, asking questions etc. So I said "listen, you have some sweets in your pocket, can you give me one?" - he asked why and I said because I need one. This actually worked and he gave me the sweet. I faked I'm eating it and I asked him to open his mouth and he should eat one too. Why? Because it's good and I want him to try it. Success, he opened his mouth and he ate it. He went out of the car, I took him home, asked him to eat something and I left (had to). It scared the hell out of me but I was also kind of happy I managed to convince him to eat the sweet.
What are your ways to help in cases like that?
My boyfriend is Type 1 for over 20 years, so most of his life. We are together for 2 years and I'm still learning about it. I never knew anyone with diabetes, or at least I do not know about it, so I really admire how he manages to live with it. We do not live together and I rarely see him going low but when it happens it terrifies me. It happened maybe 2-3 times during our relationship but I obviously know it happens more often, just without me being around. Problem is that when I try to help when he's going low, he fights everything I try to do. I ask him to eat, he says no. I ask him to drink something sweet, he says no. First time it happened was when we were on a trip and out on the street. I didn't know what's happening when his movements were pretty uncoordinated and suddenly he just sat down on a pavement. I figured he might be low so I asked him to eat something and he didn't want to. After some time I finally managed to convince him to get up so we can sit at the bus stop and he decided on his own to eat. Later when we spoke about it, he told me that if I'll try to force him to do something, he'll be fighting it. This comes from the way his mother was trying to help - she obviously recognises when he's coming home and he's low but what she was doing was taking a glass of sweet drink, putting it under his nose and saying "drink" - and he didn't want to.
Does this happen to anyone else? Do your partners fight you when they are low and you try to help? He told me to work with him, not against him - I guess "against" is only in his hypo mind as he perfectly knows I'm only trying to help, but it leaves me ... well helpless. I learned how to recognise his hypos as he's pretty quiet guy, doesn't talk much and when he goes low, he starts being talkative and as I said, pretty uncoordinated. Few days ago we were out at a festival and suddenly I realised he's already low (which was pretty weird because he ate 3 hours before) so I said it's time for us to leave. He asked why and I said "because you're going low" and he was already in a fighting mode as he said "NO!". I thought ok, i'm not going to fight him. 10 mins later I said I want to leave, he again asked why and I said "because it's late and I'm working tomorrow" - that worked, we left. I know he alway carries some sweets in his pocket so I asked "do you have your sweets with you?" and again, in a fighting mode, he said "no!". I didn't say anything, just drove him home. When were near his home he didn't want to go out of the car, he was talkative, asking questions etc. So I said "listen, you have some sweets in your pocket, can you give me one?" - he asked why and I said because I need one. This actually worked and he gave me the sweet. I faked I'm eating it and I asked him to open his mouth and he should eat one too. Why? Because it's good and I want him to try it. Success, he opened his mouth and he ate it. He went out of the car, I took him home, asked him to eat something and I left (had to). It scared the hell out of me but I was also kind of happy I managed to convince him to eat the sweet.
What are your ways to help in cases like that?
