semiphonic
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Hi again Molly,
I have a nephew who is 25 years old, he was kicked out of the army after failing a random drugs test and has spent his time since doing as little as possible and staying with various members of the family. Everyone he has stayed with he has taken for a ride, and he fleeced my (70 year old) father in law out of several hundred pounds.
Recently it was my turn to 'welcome' him into my home, and as he is my sisters son, I had to exercise caution with my opinion of him. I soon had the measure of him. When my wife was around my nephew was totally incapable of fending for himself, she did everything for him. I had knee surgery earlier this year and was at home for an extended period, my wife works away regularly. When she wasn't at home he was totally self sufficient because I refused to cook for him, clean up after him and generally be his housekeeper. Once I pointed out to my wife that my nephew is, in fact, an adult and that he should act as such, and she stopped doing everything for him, he soon moved out.
As much as I dislike my nephew, he is still my nephew, I've been his uncle since the day he was born and I'll always be there for him and will stand by him when the going gets tough, but I refuse to be his keeper.
If you've read this far you'll be wondering what my point is.
Your love for your partner is without question, but maybe it's time you told him that you know what he's doing to himself and you won't support it any longer. What he is doing to himself is making you ill, no one should have to go through that. Maybe you should stop encouraging him to test his BG and just let him get on with it. He's still the man you love, but maybe you should just let him eat what he wants and ignore his diabetes, you know what the likely outcome is, as does he, and maybe you just both need to deal with the consequences as they arise.
I wish you, as always, the very best of luck, and hope that you can both work through this.
I have a nephew who is 25 years old, he was kicked out of the army after failing a random drugs test and has spent his time since doing as little as possible and staying with various members of the family. Everyone he has stayed with he has taken for a ride, and he fleeced my (70 year old) father in law out of several hundred pounds.
Recently it was my turn to 'welcome' him into my home, and as he is my sisters son, I had to exercise caution with my opinion of him. I soon had the measure of him. When my wife was around my nephew was totally incapable of fending for himself, she did everything for him. I had knee surgery earlier this year and was at home for an extended period, my wife works away regularly. When she wasn't at home he was totally self sufficient because I refused to cook for him, clean up after him and generally be his housekeeper. Once I pointed out to my wife that my nephew is, in fact, an adult and that he should act as such, and she stopped doing everything for him, he soon moved out.
As much as I dislike my nephew, he is still my nephew, I've been his uncle since the day he was born and I'll always be there for him and will stand by him when the going gets tough, but I refuse to be his keeper.
If you've read this far you'll be wondering what my point is.
Your love for your partner is without question, but maybe it's time you told him that you know what he's doing to himself and you won't support it any longer. What he is doing to himself is making you ill, no one should have to go through that. Maybe you should stop encouraging him to test his BG and just let him get on with it. He's still the man you love, but maybe you should just let him eat what he wants and ignore his diabetes, you know what the likely outcome is, as does he, and maybe you just both need to deal with the consequences as they arise.
I wish you, as always, the very best of luck, and hope that you can both work through this.
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