daddys1
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Did he go out and buy the jam doughnuts himself, or were they in the house?
My thoughts exactly, Pavlos.
Did he go out and buy the jam doughnuts himself, or were they in the house?
@Molly56
I thought your other half was poorly and in bed and also suffering from poor mobility and unable to do much walking due to a knee that needs replacement?
Yet he still managed to get himself out and about to get jam doughnuts?
Agreed ... 1000% ....Sadly I think your husband won't take responsibility until that time bomb goes off. I sincerely hope it's only a small bomb, but big enough to wake him up and change his attitude. I feel for you, but I don't see him changing until something makes him change
@zand...this is what I am thinking too...but then occasionally like today there is a small indication that I can see just how much his diabetes is getting him down....he rarely / never says much about it and generally just won't talk about it but today he did actually mention how much it was getting him down .......but as quick as the moment was there it was gone again...Sadly I think your husband won't take responsibility until that time bomb goes off. I sincerely hope it's only a small bomb, but big enough to wake him up and change his attitude. I feel for you, but I don't see him changing until something makes him change
@zand...this is what I am thinking too...but then occasionally like today there is a small indication that I can see just how much his diabetes is getting him down....he rarely / never says much about it and generally just won't talk about it but today he did actually mention how much it was getting him down .......but as quick as the moment was there it was gone again...
What he probably needs is to talk to someone about how it is making him feel ......I am happy to talk to him about it if he wants to but sometimes think he would be better off talking to someone else but don't know who would be best........just wish I could find the answer / hoping I find it before the time bomb goes off....
@anna29 ....I only wish there was someone...but sadly can't think of anyone...Fear of the unknown can make a person freeze up .
Same as stubbornness - a person will hold out until they are
ready or able to move forward to a positive change .
Denial - same thing, afraid to truly acknowledge what they do
can cause themselves harm etc .
These all act as obstacles - some people open up better to a certain person .
Some persons will be influenced 'more' by a certain family member or friend .
(like my daughter with her dad - I just nag her she says)
Others will listen to a professional 'more' than anyone else .
Partners and spouses usually suffer the negative responses more - sadly .
Molly - is there not someone ? he would be more inclined to listen and be coaxed
more by .
@anna29 ....I only wish there was someone...but sadly can't think of anyone...
He was an only child so no siblings....he does have children from a previous relationship but has little / no contact with them...the contact he does have with his son is by phone and follows a typical pattern...each ask the other how they are and they both say "alright" (while I shout silently in the background "no, it is not alright")....
...have considered whether I should speak to his son directly but not sure if I should or not...I would of course contact him if it was an emergency / life threatening but not sure if the current situation warrants that or if it would be looked on unfavourably by either party.......
I agree totally with your observations about people opening up better to a certain person...I will talk at length to my friend about my problems and her problems but won't talk to my mum about any of this.......its just the way it is and is easier that way...
Will keep thinking if there is someone he would listen to but haven't thought of anyone yet...
Years ago three of my GPs in my practice retired all with a year of each other. I felt lost but decided to "shop" around for a suitable replacement GP that I felt comfortable with. This has taken a while and now have two GPs who know me well and don't need to waste time pre-reading my records as this gives me the whole 10 mins to discuss things or be examined. Good GPs are like gold dust and anyone blessed with one should consider themselves very lucky.
Bit of a strange day today.......had a discussion with someone about the situation and gained some positive feedback, reassurance and support.......with the potential to get things moving on medication front..
....ended with a setback in terms of referral date which will delay this to even later than originally planned.....not sure how to feel about this....
Am thinking at the moment to work on suggestion by @eddie1968 earlier in this thread...."tomorrow is another day"....and worry about it tomorrow...