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[Scandichic]

Done walk to Lidl! Kids out playing! Yay peace and quiet. Am now going to try dove moisturiser with hint of tan. Wish me luck! At least if it all goes wrong I can cover it all up with a maxi dress! Here goes!

 

[Scandichic]

Am now standing like a starfish waiting for lotion to dry. If I were really committed I'd get some tins of beans out. Actually I might try that as my bingo wings are not great! Hope this works. Fed up of luminous white legs! Has anyone actually tried this cream (dove summer glow) . Most reviews were positive but someone said it smelt of stale biscuits and someone else said it went streaky. Am starting to feel really silly sitting here. If this goes wrong my hubbie will be merciless as he thinks the whole thing is crackers any way.

 

[aqualung]

Back to dog walking today although a bit slower as the ground was uneven. What a lovely walk it was - NOT. I went with hubbie before he went to work and asked him how his weight loss was going (very bad move!) he said his weight was the same as yesterday (which was the same as the day before). It has been less than a week but he did lose a bit the first couple of days and he has about 3-4 stone to lose so I thought he should have lost more. When I suggested that maybe the couple of glasses of red wine he has on an evening are maybe not helping he walked off on a huff and didn't speak to me again. He has now gone to work - he just about said good bye. It's like having a third child!

scandi I have looked at the dove tanning lotion but never used it. I think I have some nivea upstairs so I might give it a try, I know what you mean about white legs!

 

[zand]

@Scandichic and @aqualung lol re white legs....I almost posted a picture of my own very white legs. Anyway serious stuff now...I've done my 40 minutes walking, not as fast as I would have liked, but no complaining today either. Now housework

 

[cold ethyl]

1 and 1/2 hrs on the wall of doom so far today and it was a painting day so I've been up and down my ladders. At least it is cooler which is just as well as I can't keep up with the necessary fluids while painting or I'd be down the ladder more often than I was up it.I'll be back out spraying for hours later. Hope to get on my bike as that's the only exercise I enjoy doing.

 

[aqualung]

well done on the walk zand...I really must do some housework today or hubbie will find something else to moan about!
I have to take eldest son to the doctor's later this afternoon as he has been complaining his tongue is hurting which will be fun as when I ask where it is hurting he just says"I don't know". I hope he is a bit more specific with the GP. I really need to broach the subject of his lack of communication/social skills but not sure who with or how

 

[cold ethyl]

How old is your son? I think if you have any concerns re his social skills you can mention them to your GP who ought to be able to point you in right direction- social services and education are linked here with the health service on such things so they are able to pass details on to relevant team- here there is a unit for autism/special needs which works with schools and parents.He may benefit from speech and language therapy as it is not all about not being able to physically vocalise. Good luck with it all.

 

[aqualung]

thanks ethyl. He is 15 (16 in September). I just feel something isn't right. I will contact the GP.

 

[cold ethyl]

My son is on autistic spectrum but isn't "bad" enough to meet the formal criteria for say Aspergers. He talks way too much but has poor eye contact and isn't great at modulating tone of voice or seeing when his audience are glazing over. Your GP should be able to offer some support and may set wheels in motion with an educational psychologist who can do the various tests needed to jump through the getting some support hoops. I know we had difficulty as he got older to get someone to help because the health service kept saying it was an education issue and the education lot said only a medical expert can diagnose autism.. just stand your ground. In end my son got extra exam time and the teachers all made allowances for his quirks - now he is in second year at uni and has a lot of friends so they get there, but just a bit more slowly.

 

[zand]

My son is on autistic spectrum but isn't "bad" enough to meet the formal criteria for say Aspergers. He talks way too much but has poor eye contact and isn't great at modulating tone of voice or seeing when his audience are glazing over. Your GP should be able to offer some support and may set wheels in motion with an educational psychologist who can do the various tests needed to jump through the getting some support hoops. I know we had difficulty as he got older to get someone to help because the health service kept saying it was an education issue and the education lot said only a medical expert can diagnose autism.. just stand your ground. In end my son got extra exam time and the teachers all made allowances for his quirks - now he is in second year at uni and has a lot of friends so they get there, but just a bit more slowly.

Oh, the educational psychologist! I had to see one of those when I was 5. I don't remember it at all, but apparently I told him he was stupid because he kept asking me dumb questions and giving me dumb tests to do and explaining what I was supposed to do in these dumb tests.....like it wasn't painfully obvious what I was meant to do....Apparently my Mum told him to stop treating me like a child and I might respond! When I think how I behave sometimes now, I think I was probably more grown up at 5.

The poor eye contact things sounds just like me.

 

[aqualung]

I have no concerns about school - he is at the top of the top sets in all subjects, gets on well with his teachers who all think he is great and does have a group of friends. He just doesn't socialise outside of school and spends all his time on his computer. He doesn't do eye contact either and if things do go right goes in a huff (wonder where he gets that from!!). The thing that worries me is if I say something he doesn't like at meal time he will go to his room and not eat - he is so skinny and I don't want food/eating to become an issue

zand - that would be my son!

 

[cold ethyl]

I have no concerns about school - he is at the top of the top sets in all subjects, gets on well with his teachers who all think he is great and does have a group of friends. He just doesn't socialise outside of school and spends all his time on his computer. He doesn't do eye contact either and if things do go right goes in a huff (wonder where he gets that from!!). The thing that worries me is if I say something he doesn't like at meal time he will go to his room and not eat - he is so skinny and I don't want food/eating to become an issue

zand - that would be my son!

It does sound like he has some issues that would be covered by the autistic spectrum. My son is a T2 in the making as he will only eat food in breadcrumbs, ham, chicken , and some veg- he would live on Pringles and french bread if allowed to. Poor eye contact is a classic feature and can be worked on- my son has got much better over the years but when he goes off on one of his tales his eyes still drift heavenward! It is very much a spectrum and if you feel he needs help, then even if everything else is going great, they should listen to your concerns. Some children just like down time after school and maybe he is social networking on his computer- also he is at that hormonal surge time when even the sweetest tempered of kids go all huffy and monosyllabic.
@zand I remember junior having to do the primary school baseline tests that all the kids took- they asked what was the difference between two pictures of bears, the " correct" answer being one was bigger.. the teacher said he gave at least 30 other differences and looked at her like she was an idiot when she mentioned the size one as though it was beneath anyone of any intelligence to acknowledge so obvious an issue.

 

[zand]

I have no concerns about school - he is at the top of the top sets in all subjects, gets on well with his teachers who all think he is great and does have a group of friends. He just doesn't socialise outside of school and spends all his time on his computer. He doesn't do eye contact either and if things do go right goes in a huff (wonder where he gets that from!!). The thing that worries me is if I say something he doesn't like at meal time he will go to his room and not eat - he is so skinny and I don't want food/eating to become an issue

zand - that would be my son!

Yep me too....I did that with food too, if my Mum said anything at all challenging during mealtimes I just couldn't eat. I became a really fussy eater. I must say your son sounds like a truly wonderful person! He's so like me! I just didn't like confrontation at all, confrontation meant looking into someone's eye and I didn't always like what I saw in those eyes, so I looked away (still do) and I don't like the thought that people can tell what I'm thinking by looking into my eyes either. It's just too intimate to look into someone's eyes....has he ever had en eyetest? It nearly sends me ballistic when they look into my eye with that light. No-one should get that close. And what's so wrong with getting in a huff if things don't go right....that's what I do! Your son sounds perfect to me! Oh....have I ever mentioned I don't like socialising?..... Yes I was top set at school too, I didn't work though I preferred to mess about (I know that's so hard to believe, but it's true.) My Mum didn't have any concerns about school either, but that was because I only worked for the Summer (exam) term every year and forged her signature on the Autumn and Spring term reports.

 

[zand]

It does sound like he has some issues that would be covered by the autistic spectrum. My son is a T2 in the making as he will only eat food in breadcrumbs, ham, chicken , and some veg- he would live on Pringles and french bread if allowed to. Poor eye contact is a classic feature and can be worked on- my son has got much better over the years but when he goes off on one of his tales his eyes still drift heavenward! It is very much a spectrum and if you feel he needs help, then even if everything else is going great, they should listen to your concerns. Some children just like down time after school and maybe he is social networking on his computer- also he is at that hormonal surge time when even the sweetest tempered of kids go all huffy and monosyllabic.
@zand I remember junior having to do the primary school baseline tests that all the kids took- they asked what was the difference between two pictures of bears, the " correct" answer being one was bigger.. the teacher said he gave at least 30 other differences and looked at her like she was an idiot when she mentioned the size one as though it was beneath anyone of any intelligence to acknowledge so obvious an issue.

Yes well he was right wasn't he? If it's so obvious you don't say it! I don't know what's wrong with teachers, they were the same in my day too.
My eyes drift to the floor not upwards though. OK, autism is more usually a male trait.....and here I am understanding these two lads. I'm sure I should've been a boy.

 

[zand]

@aqualung Can your son write down what's wrong with his tongue? If not can he key it into the computer? Since being with this forum I have found that online is by far my easiest way of communicating. To my amazement I have managed to express things that I wouldn't have even attempted face to face. Maybe he could do that first? It's less intimate. It's so hard to describe what's wrong with you when you can't let anyone in

 

[aqualung]

@aqualung Can your son write down what's wrong with his tongue? If not can he key it into the computer? Since being with this forum I have found that online is by far my easiest way of communicating. To my amazement I have managed to express things that I wouldn't have even attempted face to face. Maybe he could do that first? It's less intimate. It's so hard to describe what's wrong with you when you can't let anyone in

he's just come in and said "my tongue doesn't hurt any more, it did 2/3 days ago" so I have cancelled the appointment. argh!

He doesn't get explanations either - if he has been asked to apologise he says sorry, but if you say what are you sorry for he says you know what for so why do I need to tell you?

He is used to being poked and prodded as both boys have a hospital appointment every 3 months and give blood. Just not very good at communicating!

On a totally different subject and back on topic I have just realised that my bra straps are about an inch too loose - oops

 

[cold ethyl]

Maybe just voice you concerns to the SENCO at next parents" evening as she will be able to suggest things you could do to improve his communication skills.

My bosom doesn't appear to be shedding weight at same rate as rest of me so I am ok in my old bras if I use next hook up but I know all about Bridget Jones' big girl pants as I can just about pull today's pair up to my ears. Just doesn't seem worth spending money on interim items of clothing so I'll just have to look a bit baggy for a while yet.

 

[cold ethyl]

Just done 30 minutes on bike.. Had to get off at the start of the next track even if it upset my OCD as it was The Moody Blues doing Nights in White Satin and my bum wouldn't have lasted that.

 

[zand]

he's just come in and said "my tongue doesn't hurt any more, it did 2/3 days ago" so I have cancelled the appointment. argh!

He doesn't get explanations either - if he has been asked to apologise he says sorry, but if you say what are you sorry for he says you know what for so why do I need to tell you?

He is used to being poked and prodded as both boys have a hospital appointment every 3 months and give blood. Just not very good at communicating!

On a totally different subject and back on topic I have just realised that my bra straps are about an inch too loose - oops

lol Well if that was me and it was my tongue and you were my Mum....the story would go something like this.......My tongue hurt, I'm not comfortable about a part of me hurting and I don't know why it's hurting, so I tell you, because my emotions and intellect and physical being don't all join up properly. I can't cope with something that's not meant to happen, so I have to dump it on to you. It's then your problem not mine. I don't think to tell you it's better because I didn't want to go to the doctor anyway and it's better now, so not a problem. So I don't think to tell you that it's not a problem because it ain't bothering me anymore, so why would I tell you? I don't tell you about 10 zillion other things in the world that ain't problems so why would I tell you about this one? It's just annoying that part of me hurt 2/3 days ago and I don't know why, that's all.

Now I do get explanations.....they're the things you make up when you don't want to be told off by your Mum. I once asked my son why he was saying sorry and he said "so you won't be cross with me anymore".....and your son is right isn't he? You do know what he's apologising for so why does he need to bother saying?

I don't reckon communicating in the real world is all it's cracked up to be. I don't know what I'm thinking half the time...how can I be expected to tell anyone else about it. Online is different. Anyway that's just me I 'spect your son is totally different

Well my bras aren't that loose yet, so I'll stick with them....now we've had these conversations maybe you'll understand why I don't like being measured!

 

[cold ethyl]

I can see exactly where you are coming from as I've had some of those responses from my own son. Also there's the taking of everything literally- I once jokingly said to him that if he did something again I'd chop his bloody hands off( not the best thing to say I know but I was frustrated and had tried every other method) and he refused to come home from school because he had done x. It took years for him to really get sarcasm and some types of jokes.
We are all different and just have to do what we can to cope. It is good that this place exists as we can at least share some of our confusions and difficulties with one another. A feeling of loneliness was the one major thing that my diagnosis triggered in me.. people try and understand , but unless they have it, they can't really see why you get worried, or obsessive about testing etc.