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MH2010

MH2010

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Type of diabetes
Type 1
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Insulin
So, I am 29 years old (been diabetic for 25 of those) and already have my funeral planned & a seperate bank account to pay for it.

Does any one else have anything like this or am I the only one ALWAYS thinking about 'what if I die tomorrow??'
 
Definitely not. In this day and age there is no reason why anyone with diabetes should have a shorter lifespan.
 
Certainly not something that I've made any arrangements for. Whilst I know I am mortal, I have no intention of dying any time yet...!
 
Don't think your a depressing sod, had mine sorted since 2002, its settling to my mind that my family won't have to pay for or arrange what happens to my "TinCan" once I've finished with it.
Cardboard coffin, crematorium and ashes to be thrown to the wind up on the moors, then a pub visit for those that want to raise a glass or two.
.........:mask:
 
Well I've told my family not to be disappointed when there isn't a funeral, the undertakers will take me to the crematorium as soon as possible, no ashes to family, no mourners etc.
Depending when I die, I would like my family to get together and have a picnic, play some music I like and read some poetry ( thus would be in late spring early summer)

I think it is important to let your family know what you want, and good idea to have money set aside, some might think I'm too young or diabetes won't kill me, but you don't know what's round the corner, you could get hit by a bus no one knows when death will happen and mist won't know the cause. I have my will and wishes all done, but I'm going to enjoy life not wonder about death
 
The only thing I occasionally think about is making a will as there are certain people I definitely don't want to get their hands on whatever money I might have left when I pop off, which I'm not expecting to do in the immediate future.

But what I really HATE and object to is all the *@$** junk mail I get as an OAP informing me I should be planning (and of course using their savings plans/insurance to fund) my funeral... :mad::mad::mad: I refuse to do so on principal.

Robbity
 
Hi ... few years ago, I write a will when i have a procedure or go to the Far East. . .. (ooohhh yesss.. even when I had my caesaren!). I think people wt young children tend to more mindful, maybe? Now that my kids are in their 20s ... I Jz tell and remind them what I need done to take me to HAPPY LAND... but I don't set up a separate acct for expenses. After what I hv given them... those expenses are the least they can do for me! :oops::yuck:
 
MH2010 said:
So, I am 29 years old (been diabetic for 25 of those) and already have my funeral planned & a seperate bank account to pay for it.

Does any one else have anything like this or am I the only one ALWAYS thinking about 'what if I die tomorrow??'
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Don't think your being morbid at all, we never know what is around the corner and although we all strive to live a long and active life some never make it, therefore making provisions for funeral expenses or to leave our loved ones comfortable when we are gone is a sensible decision IMHO, but if death and the thought of dying pre-occupies anyone's mind then this isn't right and it needs to be addressed.

When my father died 18 years ago our family had the opportunity to buy the next 3 plots alongside my father, I bought one as did 2 of my siblings and last year I took out a small insurance policy to cover funeral expenses for when my time is up, simply because funerals are expensive and don't want to burden my loved ones with the cost.
 
Approaching 65 I'm probably getting closer to meeting the Grim Reaper, but I believe I've still got at least a decade, if not two. to go. I haven't made any specific plans for my funeral. I have made a Will, as I had to deal with my father's probate and it was difficult and expensive as he hadn't made a recent Will.
It is a good idea for anybody with anything much to leave to make a Will, especially if you have a partner, family or dependants.

A lot of people think that if you are married you don't need to make a Will as your partner will be entitled to your estate, but it is more complicated than that, and other people like children or parents might also be entitled to part. And it will be more expensive to administer if your wishes aren't clear.
Making a straightforward Will costs around £150, you can shop around getting quotes from different solicitors. If you belong to a professional body or trade union, they will often provide a free Will writing service through their solicitors. I had mine made free through my union solicitors five years ago, and will be updating it this year.

As for my funeral, I expect to have a cheap a funeral as possible. The funds in my estate will cover the cost (it is the first expense that has to be paid from the estate). I will be cremated, and I hope someone will scatter my ashes on a sea, river, or wild place. But I'm not that bothered as I won't be there!
 
I've had a will which includes my wishes re. funeral etc since I was 30. The first will was prompted by both my father's terminal cancer diagnosis and working in a legal firm at the time. After hearing horror stories about what families go through if someone dies intestate, I find it bizarre that every single adult doesn't have one in place. Nobody gets out of here alive and do you really want your loved ones to have even more stress as a result of your death? I think not having a will is the ultimate selfishness, to be honest.

I haven't gone as far as arranging the actual funeral or having it paid for though. In Australia at least most funerary expenses are covered by the deceased estate and there's a standard clause in most wills that covers that.
 
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